It has been a long time since I penned a few words to my blog, I missed writing but I was into some more interesting things in the meanwhile, but still, its my hour for myself and I can take out the time whenever I truly feel like.
I have always told the above sentence or may be that this is my first and last love of life, sounds mysterious, but there's no mystery about it,my loved ones who know me closely know that no one can take this place in my life, and I have loved it ever since I am born and till date the love remains, well, it is my love for Music. I am sure there are many more people like me who love music with the same passion and depth as I do, because Music is a blessing from above in this world of mankind and nature.
When you say Music, everyone has a different taste and different choices, I too have had my favorites and my choices have changed with time and situations. When you are a child, your mother's Bhajans and lullabies are music, they fill your heart and soul with peace and innocent connect to God there by, as you grow, it is all kinds of songs which could be sung publicly, and which are all time hits, because then relatives and friends would ask you to Sing and if you sang the hit numbers nicely people would appreciate you and a child feels so much loved and praised, so it gave happiness. When you enter teenage pretty much happens to everyone, it is the romantic numbers which would be heard all around and I sang them with so much enthusiasm, and heard them that way too. With passing time when you are sad, and when you are happy, the choices keep changing. When you get into serious parts of life, it feels good to hear motivating songs and songs which fill you with energy and courage to face and handle the stress. When you become a parent you pour the same love your parents would have passed to you, to your children through your songs and chants you heard as a child. There come times when you are low and weak, again some beautiful lyrics and compositions make you understand the meaning of life and how beautiful life can be. There are times when you start hearing what your loved ones love to hear, again some times you hear your old favorites too, but whatever may be the choice of the song, the singer, the lyrics, the music never stops and I believe that it should never stop too.
We all learn so much from all kinds of songs, be it any language, be it any category, be it any composer, the lyrics add meaning to our thoughts, the music added into the lyrics add life to the lyrics, the singer's voice touches the heart and soul if he or she is a true artist, the instruments make justice to all the above, it is a different world altogether but it touches millions of hearts irrespective of caste, creed, religion and cultures.
I loved music ever since I was born and truly this is my only love of life which never ever changed, a good song can bring out the passion, can make a difference to my thoughts, can guide me, can give me company when I am alone, can support me softly and strongly too, can make me talk to God, can make me express my feelings to anyone and everyone, can literally change my moods, can do anything which no one may be unable to, keep me happy always :-)
Music is love, music is passion, music is madness, music is romance, music is expression, music is a healer, music is worship, music is motivation, music is innocent, music is wild, music is mild, music is melody, music is a teacher, music is salvation, music is meditation, music is connection, music is humor, music, music, music, I can go on and on and on, but never stop praising music and never ever stop loving it too.
I wrote this piece to dedicate it to the wonderful people in the world, The Lyricists, The Singers, The Music Directors, The Instrument Players, The Recorders, The Film makers or The Spiritual Leaders who sang their love out, In short All who make music, who give us the most beautiful gift on earth without asking anything in return except that we acknowledge it by hearing the emotions and the devotion the makers want to express through the words and the music in the song. The World would have been lifeless without music in it. Thank you all the creators of Music, Thank you God for creating them and blessing them with so much talent.
I also love all the beautiful people who have added music to my life sometimes by singing for me, sometimes by dedicating a song to me, sometimes by sharing a song with me, sometimes by giving a gift related to music like Audio cassettes, Radio, Tape Recorders, I Pod, FM Player, CD's etc. etc. etc.....and the lovely people who didn't mind hearing me sing too ;-)
I also want to thank all the lovely friends and loved ones in my family who sing so beautifully and make me feel so blessed to have them around. I love you all.
Our World is a beautiful place and Music is the soul, If there was one wish that I would be blessed with, I would ask God let me sing heartily till the end of my life and hear music and live in harmony with Music, because it gives me happiness like nothing else can and no one else can :)
Signing out for the day, Keep Singing, Keep Loving, Keep Smiling :)))))))
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Sunday, November 13, 2011
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Silence is Golden at times ;-)
Hi folks, I have no relation with silence generally, I am usually the ever talkative and I can go on and on and on for hours together with friends while I get a chance to, and many a people who know me tell me Bandana Grow up :))))))))
Well growing up and being mature is very important, I know, but keeping the child alive in you is equally important, is what I feel, many people differ in opinion, but how does that make a difference to me, if it would have, then people would stop telling me to grow up......lol....
How much fun it is when you enjoy the little moments, like today me, my son and my daughter we all went out for dinner, ate well, then came back home and after an hour again went for a juice almost close to mid night, searching for open shops and available options, empty roads, 3 of us on a two wheeler and no if's and but's. I love to spend such moments with children and thankfully I get opportunities too, my children also enjoy the ride, though they are grown up and more mature than me sometimes............
Today I was after a very stressful mind for last few days, due to various reasons, simply sitting and enjoying the light moments, then added a few songs to my playlist which I am very fond of and just hearing songs and spending time with myself here, feels so good to be silent and at peace with myself.
My friend told me and we often hear, that change what you cannot accept and accept what you cannot change, its not easy I know, but sometimes we forget to differentiate between Self respect and Ego. Today I read somewhere some nice lines written by a person who believes in spreading happiness that
Happiness blooms in the presence of self respect and the absence of Ego :-)
Love yourself and Love everyone around you :-)
Love everyone in the whole world :-)
Know that your own life is of Infinite importance, as is every other life :-)
I often refer to his writings and I feel good to read them because I relate to them and we all love to read and write and also talk about the things we love to do or we dream to do. I am loving this moment where I am not doing anything thinking that what would be the reaction of people, or do they think I am good, do they think I am bad, do they think I am mad......lol....
well most of the times we are in stress because we think more about what others are thinking, if someone does not like me can I change their thoughts, No I cannot, no matter how hard I try and if someone loves me, again I cannot change that too so I just figured out that It actually makes no difference and I should not get affected by what others think about me.
This is the first rule to be at peace with yourself and the second do not judge others, we can never exchange lives with anyone, then do we have the right to judge anyone. Its good to appreciate, do that as and when you can but its very inhuman to discourage and criticize others.
I am blessed to have friends and family who stand by me without judging me for anything whatsoever I say or do and I trust I am also the same way with them and that is why those relations are all alive and do not fade away or die despite the distances in miles and also differences in thoughts. The only true religion which is understood by all human beings on earth is unconditional love :-)
How much is the comfort when someone tells you " I love you just the way you are " and when you say the same to someone.
The grown ups need to learn that trait from little children and I love to accept the fact that I learn a lot from them, attaching a cute snap of a little lovely baby of a friend and these innocent smiles teach us a lot.
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Signing out with a wish that God bless all of us with the power of loving unconditionally and Keep Smiling :-)
Well growing up and being mature is very important, I know, but keeping the child alive in you is equally important, is what I feel, many people differ in opinion, but how does that make a difference to me, if it would have, then people would stop telling me to grow up......lol....
How much fun it is when you enjoy the little moments, like today me, my son and my daughter we all went out for dinner, ate well, then came back home and after an hour again went for a juice almost close to mid night, searching for open shops and available options, empty roads, 3 of us on a two wheeler and no if's and but's. I love to spend such moments with children and thankfully I get opportunities too, my children also enjoy the ride, though they are grown up and more mature than me sometimes............
Today I was after a very stressful mind for last few days, due to various reasons, simply sitting and enjoying the light moments, then added a few songs to my playlist which I am very fond of and just hearing songs and spending time with myself here, feels so good to be silent and at peace with myself.
My friend told me and we often hear, that change what you cannot accept and accept what you cannot change, its not easy I know, but sometimes we forget to differentiate between Self respect and Ego. Today I read somewhere some nice lines written by a person who believes in spreading happiness that
Happiness blooms in the presence of self respect and the absence of Ego :-)
Love yourself and Love everyone around you :-)
Love everyone in the whole world :-)
Know that your own life is of Infinite importance, as is every other life :-)
I often refer to his writings and I feel good to read them because I relate to them and we all love to read and write and also talk about the things we love to do or we dream to do. I am loving this moment where I am not doing anything thinking that what would be the reaction of people, or do they think I am good, do they think I am bad, do they think I am mad......lol....
well most of the times we are in stress because we think more about what others are thinking, if someone does not like me can I change their thoughts, No I cannot, no matter how hard I try and if someone loves me, again I cannot change that too so I just figured out that It actually makes no difference and I should not get affected by what others think about me.
This is the first rule to be at peace with yourself and the second do not judge others, we can never exchange lives with anyone, then do we have the right to judge anyone. Its good to appreciate, do that as and when you can but its very inhuman to discourage and criticize others.
I am blessed to have friends and family who stand by me without judging me for anything whatsoever I say or do and I trust I am also the same way with them and that is why those relations are all alive and do not fade away or die despite the distances in miles and also differences in thoughts. The only true religion which is understood by all human beings on earth is unconditional love :-)
How much is the comfort when someone tells you " I love you just the way you are " and when you say the same to someone.
The grown ups need to learn that trait from little children and I love to accept the fact that I learn a lot from them, attaching a cute snap of a little lovely baby of a friend and these innocent smiles teach us a lot.
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Signing out with a wish that God bless all of us with the power of loving unconditionally and Keep Smiling :-)
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
I met life one day and....................
Good Morning is what I say to myself and all my friends and family everyday through a sms and today while writing I just started with these words.....
I met life one day and asked: Why do you keep changing your mood so often, You are never the same?
She replied: I change my mood as per your mood :-)
Well with this note I say Good Morning to all who are reading this blog too, Isn't this so true,Have you ever noticed, that there is nothing called the perfect life to any human being on earth and heaven too, for that matter, situations keep changing, every life is very eventful, but what is it that makes all the difference ???
Yes of course it is your attitude towards life and attitude also keeps changing as per our moods and so does Life. When we smile, Life smiles back. When we cry, Life cries for us and with us. When we think that Life is beautiful, it actually is. When we get annoyed on every little and big thing happening, Life also does the same. When we hate life and people around, Life also hates us. When we Love Life and people around, Life also loves us.
Many a times we keep thinking why me, why does this happen to me always.
I am not an exception, I also think this way when I am very low, but then immediately if I switch off my low mood and smile, I don't feel that pain, I feel so what if its me over and over again, because I always loved challenges and that is what Life is giving me, then why am I complaining, is there any need to complain or criticize or even regret and repent. And I say a Big NO, I say to myself Life is beautiful and it always proves to me that YES I AM :-)
I know its easier said than done, but the best way to change your mood is to share, share the good, share the bad, share all you feel with someone you love or someone who loves you and you will see that it is not all that hard to keep smiling and when you do that, just for a minute take out time and look into the mirror, trust me you would look more beautiful than ever if you are a Girl and if you are a Guy then more handsome than ever. One never grows old or becomes dull by looks or age, it only happens by our moods and attitude towards the day to day happenings of life.
Here there might be someone who says, that may be you are lucky enough you have people around you who love you, I do not have anyone, but this is a total myth. All of us have someone or the other who loves us and whom we love, its just that we keep ourself closed.
Open your heart and smile, it will reflect on your face, people come, people go, meeting and departing is a part of life. One person may be happy with you today and tomorrow he may be angry, but here I want to say, irrespective of who is happy with you, and who is not, it is more important that YOU BE HAPPY YOURSELF.
Love yourself, Believe in yourself and Love others and Believe in others too.
Take time to Think, it is the source of power.
Take time to Read, it is the foundation of wisdom.
Take time to Play, it is the secret of staying young.
Take time to be Quiet, it is the opportunity to seek God.
Take time to be Aware, it is the opportunity to help others.
Take time to Love and Be loved, it is God's greatest gift.
Take time to Laugh, it is the music of the soul.
Take time to be Friendly, it is the road to happiness.
Take time to Dream, it is what the future is made of.
Take time to Pray, it is the greatest power on earth.
Life tells you with open arms that " Walk from the gates of "YOU", Stride towards the doors of "ME", Knock not, Just enter, Share your secrets, See dreams, Open your heart for me and I will be your friend forever. "
And you will then experience what I have and you will tell life
" Friend with you by my side, everything seems to be just perfectly right. "
Keep Loving Life and it will Never stop loving you and Keep smiling :-)
Hey I saw you smiling all along the conversation above, just keep it on.
Thank you to God and the wonderful people who are or have been a part of my life, because each one of them gives me many reasons to smile.
I am signing out for the day, attached a snap of Adesh and Srijan smiling together and I love to see all of them smiling :)))))
Have a nice day :-)
I met life one day and asked: Why do you keep changing your mood so often, You are never the same?
She replied: I change my mood as per your mood :-)
Well with this note I say Good Morning to all who are reading this blog too, Isn't this so true,Have you ever noticed, that there is nothing called the perfect life to any human being on earth and heaven too, for that matter, situations keep changing, every life is very eventful, but what is it that makes all the difference ???
Yes of course it is your attitude towards life and attitude also keeps changing as per our moods and so does Life. When we smile, Life smiles back. When we cry, Life cries for us and with us. When we think that Life is beautiful, it actually is. When we get annoyed on every little and big thing happening, Life also does the same. When we hate life and people around, Life also hates us. When we Love Life and people around, Life also loves us.
Many a times we keep thinking why me, why does this happen to me always.
I am not an exception, I also think this way when I am very low, but then immediately if I switch off my low mood and smile, I don't feel that pain, I feel so what if its me over and over again, because I always loved challenges and that is what Life is giving me, then why am I complaining, is there any need to complain or criticize or even regret and repent. And I say a Big NO, I say to myself Life is beautiful and it always proves to me that YES I AM :-)
I know its easier said than done, but the best way to change your mood is to share, share the good, share the bad, share all you feel with someone you love or someone who loves you and you will see that it is not all that hard to keep smiling and when you do that, just for a minute take out time and look into the mirror, trust me you would look more beautiful than ever if you are a Girl and if you are a Guy then more handsome than ever. One never grows old or becomes dull by looks or age, it only happens by our moods and attitude towards the day to day happenings of life.
Here there might be someone who says, that may be you are lucky enough you have people around you who love you, I do not have anyone, but this is a total myth. All of us have someone or the other who loves us and whom we love, its just that we keep ourself closed.
Open your heart and smile, it will reflect on your face, people come, people go, meeting and departing is a part of life. One person may be happy with you today and tomorrow he may be angry, but here I want to say, irrespective of who is happy with you, and who is not, it is more important that YOU BE HAPPY YOURSELF.
Love yourself, Believe in yourself and Love others and Believe in others too.
Take time to Think, it is the source of power.
Take time to Read, it is the foundation of wisdom.
Take time to Play, it is the secret of staying young.
Take time to be Quiet, it is the opportunity to seek God.
Take time to be Aware, it is the opportunity to help others.
Take time to Love and Be loved, it is God's greatest gift.
Take time to Laugh, it is the music of the soul.
Take time to be Friendly, it is the road to happiness.
Take time to Dream, it is what the future is made of.
Take time to Pray, it is the greatest power on earth.
Life tells you with open arms that " Walk from the gates of "YOU", Stride towards the doors of "ME", Knock not, Just enter, Share your secrets, See dreams, Open your heart for me and I will be your friend forever. "
And you will then experience what I have and you will tell life
" Friend with you by my side, everything seems to be just perfectly right. "
Keep Loving Life and it will Never stop loving you and Keep smiling :-)
Hey I saw you smiling all along the conversation above, just keep it on.
Thank you to God and the wonderful people who are or have been a part of my life, because each one of them gives me many reasons to smile.
I am signing out for the day, attached a snap of Adesh and Srijan smiling together and I love to see all of them smiling :)))))
Have a nice day :-)
Sunday, April 17, 2011
A Divine Experience to share, I hope it makes you smile :)
Hello friends, and Rama di, thanks for inspiring me to write and sending me a message that you miss reading my post, since I haven't written for long. Thanks a lot di, feels good to be appreciated.
Well the only reason why I never wrote for long is I always prefer to write when I am happy and positive so that I can spread the same, but when I am low or negative, I prefer being quiet, because I believe in spreading smiles always. I am Thankful to God, because today I have a reason to write and be happy about.
There is a Gurudwara at Ahmedabad, the holy place of the Sikh religion, when we were here in 2009 - 2010 with family and Adesh was in a job here, if we used to pass by this highway, I always used to express my desire to visit this place once with family, but, I don't know why it never happened, usually we people run to and Ice cream parlor if we wish to eat one, we grab fast something we have long asked for, if we happen to come across, but when it comes to visiting a temple or a Holy place, we have a lazy attitude, or we just postpone it usually.
Yesterday was a unusually hot day of this summer season and Srijan told me why not we just move on the streets of Ahmedabad on his Activa just to breathe fresh air and get out of the drowsy feeling of being in one room all day long, so we moved out, had dinner, went to a friends place, had kulfi, then went to a good cafe, and had fresh Juice n cold coffee, also I proposed Rama di for a movie but as she was busy we thought we will go some other day, so this we usually do when we are bored, yesterday when we again passed this Gurudwara, I again told Srijan, that I wanted to visit this place for long and he stopped the bike and we went inside, it was some kind of festival there of the Sikhs and some saint had visited the place and a whole lot of people behind this Great person, touching his feet and seeking blessings, fortunately we entered while he was leaving and we happened to see him at a one hand distance and after which we entered the Gurudwara and though unaware of the way of worship at that place, we knew one common thing which is done at every holy place. We bowed our heads and joined our hands in prayer and Wished good for all the lovely people in my life seeking blessings for myself and my family members.
It was a divine experience, God or No God is a topic debated thousand times, and again the importance of one religion over the other also has been debated since centuries, today I just wanted to express my feelings on this particular aspect. I belong to family where religion is given a lot of importance right from the time of my Grand parents, then my parents and so on it continues. Is the supreme power Lord Rama, my In laws worship, Lord Krishna, my mother worships, Lord Shiva, my Grand father worshiped, or Lord Ganesha whom all the Hindu's believe should be worshiped and kept in the first place. I have visited Churches all my childhood from School, I studied in a convent School, read the Holy Bible, visited temples with my parents and read the Bhagwata Geeta as well, I know a bit of the preachings of the Jainism as we have friends and my bhabhi belonged to a Jain family, I have a lot of friends of all religions and all have different traditions and beliefs, it can never end this way.
But,What I felt yesterday that these holy places,Churches,Temples, Masjids and Gurudwaras all give us a divine feeling because to this place every human comes with a hope, a prayer, a positive approach, an honest mindset, we don't pretend there, we our ourselves, all the people who come there come to ask forgiveness for the wrong they have done, for praying for the happiness of each other, of our loved ones, there none of the person visiting the place does any kind of manipulaton, that whole atmosphere is Honest, filled with gratitude, filled with compassion, filled with Love, filled with Hope and even in the worst of circumstances there's HOPE and strength which every individual gets merely by visiting that place, and the positivity which radiates from each other. God is everywhere, inside us, outside us and in every living being on earth, we worship the Cow, the trees, because we trust, that it lives and it gives us Energy and Strength.
My whole idea of writing this post is that this atmosphere can be created everywhere, at home, at our work place and in our whole world, if we live with the same honesty, good feelings for others, positive approach in all situations, repentance for our wrong deeds, Forgiveness for the others who you feel have done wrong to you and many many more things which only Spread Love, Smiles, Optimism, Strength and Hope. We can have it in ourself and also see it in the others, the good and the God, and if we begin to try now, from today onwards, I feel that if not the whole world but Our World can be the most beautiful place to live in.
Sounds too dramatic or like preachings, does it ????
It may, I don't mind, I always follow my heart and speak what comes to my mind, and the best part is I feel good about it, I love every living being around me and I respect them just the way they are, be it any religion, be it any culture, be it any person carrying a different view point from mine, I love to learn more and share more, We all are blessed and the blessings we receive is in the form of the family we are born in, the place we are brought up in and the people we meet along the journey of life and the belief that we are different yet so common, we are all imperfect yet can make our lives worth living in every aspect, its just that we need to try and keep trying.
Ending with a Quote I read long back " God must have loved the common people, thats why he made so many of them "
I feel blessed to be a common man, because I trust God loves me and he loves you too, so
"Keep Smiling and keep spreading smiles. It is God's greatest gift to mankind and all of us can afford to own a smile, gift a smile and donate one too." This is my own Quote of life.
I am attaching the photo of the smiles which mean everything to me and also the reason why I can smile always, God bless them and God bless all of us.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Well the only reason why I never wrote for long is I always prefer to write when I am happy and positive so that I can spread the same, but when I am low or negative, I prefer being quiet, because I believe in spreading smiles always. I am Thankful to God, because today I have a reason to write and be happy about.
There is a Gurudwara at Ahmedabad, the holy place of the Sikh religion, when we were here in 2009 - 2010 with family and Adesh was in a job here, if we used to pass by this highway, I always used to express my desire to visit this place once with family, but, I don't know why it never happened, usually we people run to and Ice cream parlor if we wish to eat one, we grab fast something we have long asked for, if we happen to come across, but when it comes to visiting a temple or a Holy place, we have a lazy attitude, or we just postpone it usually.
Yesterday was a unusually hot day of this summer season and Srijan told me why not we just move on the streets of Ahmedabad on his Activa just to breathe fresh air and get out of the drowsy feeling of being in one room all day long, so we moved out, had dinner, went to a friends place, had kulfi, then went to a good cafe, and had fresh Juice n cold coffee, also I proposed Rama di for a movie but as she was busy we thought we will go some other day, so this we usually do when we are bored, yesterday when we again passed this Gurudwara, I again told Srijan, that I wanted to visit this place for long and he stopped the bike and we went inside, it was some kind of festival there of the Sikhs and some saint had visited the place and a whole lot of people behind this Great person, touching his feet and seeking blessings, fortunately we entered while he was leaving and we happened to see him at a one hand distance and after which we entered the Gurudwara and though unaware of the way of worship at that place, we knew one common thing which is done at every holy place. We bowed our heads and joined our hands in prayer and Wished good for all the lovely people in my life seeking blessings for myself and my family members.
It was a divine experience, God or No God is a topic debated thousand times, and again the importance of one religion over the other also has been debated since centuries, today I just wanted to express my feelings on this particular aspect. I belong to family where religion is given a lot of importance right from the time of my Grand parents, then my parents and so on it continues. Is the supreme power Lord Rama, my In laws worship, Lord Krishna, my mother worships, Lord Shiva, my Grand father worshiped, or Lord Ganesha whom all the Hindu's believe should be worshiped and kept in the first place. I have visited Churches all my childhood from School, I studied in a convent School, read the Holy Bible, visited temples with my parents and read the Bhagwata Geeta as well, I know a bit of the preachings of the Jainism as we have friends and my bhabhi belonged to a Jain family, I have a lot of friends of all religions and all have different traditions and beliefs, it can never end this way.
But,What I felt yesterday that these holy places,Churches,Temples, Masjids and Gurudwaras all give us a divine feeling because to this place every human comes with a hope, a prayer, a positive approach, an honest mindset, we don't pretend there, we our ourselves, all the people who come there come to ask forgiveness for the wrong they have done, for praying for the happiness of each other, of our loved ones, there none of the person visiting the place does any kind of manipulaton, that whole atmosphere is Honest, filled with gratitude, filled with compassion, filled with Love, filled with Hope and even in the worst of circumstances there's HOPE and strength which every individual gets merely by visiting that place, and the positivity which radiates from each other. God is everywhere, inside us, outside us and in every living being on earth, we worship the Cow, the trees, because we trust, that it lives and it gives us Energy and Strength.
My whole idea of writing this post is that this atmosphere can be created everywhere, at home, at our work place and in our whole world, if we live with the same honesty, good feelings for others, positive approach in all situations, repentance for our wrong deeds, Forgiveness for the others who you feel have done wrong to you and many many more things which only Spread Love, Smiles, Optimism, Strength and Hope. We can have it in ourself and also see it in the others, the good and the God, and if we begin to try now, from today onwards, I feel that if not the whole world but Our World can be the most beautiful place to live in.
Sounds too dramatic or like preachings, does it ????
It may, I don't mind, I always follow my heart and speak what comes to my mind, and the best part is I feel good about it, I love every living being around me and I respect them just the way they are, be it any religion, be it any culture, be it any person carrying a different view point from mine, I love to learn more and share more, We all are blessed and the blessings we receive is in the form of the family we are born in, the place we are brought up in and the people we meet along the journey of life and the belief that we are different yet so common, we are all imperfect yet can make our lives worth living in every aspect, its just that we need to try and keep trying.
Ending with a Quote I read long back " God must have loved the common people, thats why he made so many of them "
I feel blessed to be a common man, because I trust God loves me and he loves you too, so
"Keep Smiling and keep spreading smiles. It is God's greatest gift to mankind and all of us can afford to own a smile, gift a smile and donate one too." This is my own Quote of life.
I am attaching the photo of the smiles which mean everything to me and also the reason why I can smile always, God bless them and God bless all of us.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Saturday, April 2, 2011
I love my India
Good Morning India and my other friends who are outside the country :-)
Today I began writing with a beautiful feeling and I am sure you will feel it in every word written below :-)
Yesterday afternoon I boarded my train to Ahmedabad from Raipur after being at home for a week with all there, Adesh, Avani and Mummy (my mother in law) , it was her 66th Birthday yesterday and we celebrated it together, first at midnight 12 at Bhaisahab’s place (my bro in law) with Jiji, Srishti and Abhinav, with a simple home made sugar free cake made by Jiji and a lots of fun coz all 4 kids were relieved after exams being over and all celebrating together dancing and screaming in different ways wishing their grandmom whom they call 'Maa' a very Happy Birthday, and after midnight again we all met at lunch at Jiji’s place again and the celebration continued, with photographs and smiles on all faces in the family. She gave each of us a dairy milk. :-)
We left home after seeing India losing the toss and gradually in train came to know that Sachin and Sehwag both out…..and the scores kept coming from many sources in the train and also Adesh kept updating me with the scores and in the end as we were close to the historic victory, winning the World Cup over Srilanka the excitement and happiness kept increasing.
Yesterday apart from this it was also my younger bro’s Birthday, who lives at Singapore with his family and my maa is there too. Back home in Chennai today its my bhabhi’s birthday too,my elder bro's wife and my papa is there, so again celebration at my maa’s place too yesterday and today.
Amidst all this I was wondering when I boarded the train that I am going to miss all the fun at my different homes going on and how well they would all celebrate the end of the day when INDIA WON THE WORLD CUP after almost 28 years, I am sure all the people watching the match and the award ceremony might have been at something called the height of Enthusiasm, Joy and Pride. But here comes the reason why I began to write my blog post coz we celebrated it in the train with many people here.
I love train Journeys and I love my India because every place can be comfortable here and every traveller here connects with each other. Mostly the fellow travellers are women going to their mother’s home for enjoying the summer vacation with their kids and men and women of different ages of different origin, different states, different communities, versatile languages yet one common language, our very own Hindi and the fun hearing the scores via sms or internet sites or calls on cell phone and everyone announcing it to each other as the update arrives and even people who may not be so very interested in Cricket feeling that Excitement.
How beautiful is the feeling of celebrating India’s Victory in a train journey, its like being not at home but "IN INDIA". The tea vendors, the station crowd, either the ones who came to drop, or who came to receive in between the match and the curiosity on every face and people screaming at every wicket of Srilanka and every good shot of India and getting disappointed at the losses, I could have never expected a better way of celebrating this moment, at one side Adesh on the phone narrating to me the tears of happiness on the faces of each player, me shouting happily to mummy ki ye hui na Happy Happy Birthday and she agreeing and so on and on.
The summary is that this happens ONLY IN INDIA, its like family the whole nation and specially when its Cricket it’s a game of all the Indians, we all go crazy and emotional about the game and I had the privilege of watching the world cup victory on every face present inside and outside the train at Nagpur station.
I salute the Indian team members, their efforts and their commitment to win, all put together made us all proud last night and my bro. n mummy all out there feel that is was their best birthday ever and me, well I feel that seeing my loved ones happy, seeing so many lovely unknown yet so known faces of men, women and little children, smile can make any day and every day beautiful.
Concluding the post here with only few sentences, I love train journeys, I love my home at my papa’s side Chennai and Singapore and my home at Raipur, I love my India, proud to be born here in this nation of love, over flowing emotions, affection and Unity in Diversity.
Keep Smiling, I am sure I cant stop my smile thinking about yesterday 2nd April 2011 a beautiful day, a lovely journey and a complete feeling while sharing it in words with all my dear friends. Love you all :-)
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Today I began writing with a beautiful feeling and I am sure you will feel it in every word written below :-)
Yesterday afternoon I boarded my train to Ahmedabad from Raipur after being at home for a week with all there, Adesh, Avani and Mummy (my mother in law) , it was her 66th Birthday yesterday and we celebrated it together, first at midnight 12 at Bhaisahab’s place (my bro in law) with Jiji, Srishti and Abhinav, with a simple home made sugar free cake made by Jiji and a lots of fun coz all 4 kids were relieved after exams being over and all celebrating together dancing and screaming in different ways wishing their grandmom whom they call 'Maa' a very Happy Birthday, and after midnight again we all met at lunch at Jiji’s place again and the celebration continued, with photographs and smiles on all faces in the family. She gave each of us a dairy milk. :-)
We left home after seeing India losing the toss and gradually in train came to know that Sachin and Sehwag both out…..and the scores kept coming from many sources in the train and also Adesh kept updating me with the scores and in the end as we were close to the historic victory, winning the World Cup over Srilanka the excitement and happiness kept increasing.
Yesterday apart from this it was also my younger bro’s Birthday, who lives at Singapore with his family and my maa is there too. Back home in Chennai today its my bhabhi’s birthday too,my elder bro's wife and my papa is there, so again celebration at my maa’s place too yesterday and today.
Amidst all this I was wondering when I boarded the train that I am going to miss all the fun at my different homes going on and how well they would all celebrate the end of the day when INDIA WON THE WORLD CUP after almost 28 years, I am sure all the people watching the match and the award ceremony might have been at something called the height of Enthusiasm, Joy and Pride. But here comes the reason why I began to write my blog post coz we celebrated it in the train with many people here.
I love train Journeys and I love my India because every place can be comfortable here and every traveller here connects with each other. Mostly the fellow travellers are women going to their mother’s home for enjoying the summer vacation with their kids and men and women of different ages of different origin, different states, different communities, versatile languages yet one common language, our very own Hindi and the fun hearing the scores via sms or internet sites or calls on cell phone and everyone announcing it to each other as the update arrives and even people who may not be so very interested in Cricket feeling that Excitement.
How beautiful is the feeling of celebrating India’s Victory in a train journey, its like being not at home but "IN INDIA". The tea vendors, the station crowd, either the ones who came to drop, or who came to receive in between the match and the curiosity on every face and people screaming at every wicket of Srilanka and every good shot of India and getting disappointed at the losses, I could have never expected a better way of celebrating this moment, at one side Adesh on the phone narrating to me the tears of happiness on the faces of each player, me shouting happily to mummy ki ye hui na Happy Happy Birthday and she agreeing and so on and on.
The summary is that this happens ONLY IN INDIA, its like family the whole nation and specially when its Cricket it’s a game of all the Indians, we all go crazy and emotional about the game and I had the privilege of watching the world cup victory on every face present inside and outside the train at Nagpur station.
I salute the Indian team members, their efforts and their commitment to win, all put together made us all proud last night and my bro. n mummy all out there feel that is was their best birthday ever and me, well I feel that seeing my loved ones happy, seeing so many lovely unknown yet so known faces of men, women and little children, smile can make any day and every day beautiful.
Concluding the post here with only few sentences, I love train journeys, I love my home at my papa’s side Chennai and Singapore and my home at Raipur, I love my India, proud to be born here in this nation of love, over flowing emotions, affection and Unity in Diversity.
Keep Smiling, I am sure I cant stop my smile thinking about yesterday 2nd April 2011 a beautiful day, a lovely journey and a complete feeling while sharing it in words with all my dear friends. Love you all :-)
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
The Hole
Long time I never took out time to write, not that I never had anything to share but at times you just feel good to be quiet. Today some thoughts were rolling on my mind and i felt I should share them, I watched a movie with my kids last night "The Hole" and this movie was like there's a hole dark and hidden into which if one looks he gets scared to death by his own fears.
In a movie we see the various aspects but in general we do not notice little things which are really important and we all need to learn to fight our fears. When we are scared of something, I am sure all of us have some fear or the other in life, it could be a thought, a person, an animal, could be pursuit of success, could be fear to fail,,,,,,, endless emotions which are connected to our fear within and you bet on it, if we don't actually face the fear it chases us all our life and even leads to death at times.
According to me the best way to remove it is to face it, Imagine that the worst thing you dread has happened and then what next ? What would you do when something you always were scared of happens, I am sure you would think of some solution to come out of it or withstand it, you may pray, you may feed positive thoughts, you may seek other alternatives for the worst situation and when you actually think this way, you find that its not that bad, you knew how to come out of it, you have ideas where in you can manage the situation even at its worst, then why be afraid. We are only afraid of something until we actually face it.
For example during exams we all fear about the percentage, the competition, the humiliation if not performed well, but we tend to forget that while worrying about all these things we are actually hindering our efforts and performance deteriorates, when you do some task without any fear inside and with confidence the outcome is always better, and could be the best if we do the tasks happily, sincerely and confidently.
Another fear which we all undergo at sometime or the other in life is a loss of a relationship, Adesh lost his father when he was only 15,he would not have imagined in his wildest dreams that something like this might happen to them but it did, and though it seemed impossible but they made their way through, that does not mean that you start imagining that something like this would happen to you but, what I mean to say is there is no situation in life which cannot be dealt with, could be loss of a job, failure in interviews.......etc...etc. I think we can only survive when we begin any task with a "Hope for the best and be prepared for the worst" attitude.
It's easier said than done but if when the worst happens and we manage it then why be scared and make others scared as well. If you have any kind of threat on your mind then, I feel that instead of showing panic, getting depressed and creating a very tough environment for yourself and either the family or organization better look for a solution out imagining the worst which can happen and also plan your tasks as per your goal, and give your best shot without bothering much about the results or the consequences. Believe in Yourself and also believe in the others around you, they say treat the others as you want to be treated by them.
Fight your fears, be confident, facing the fear takes you a step ahead towards winning and reaching your goal. Life gives you two options to everything either participate or run away, running away will lead you nowhere, where as participating may not give the desired result always but for sure you will have the satisfaction of having done whatever best you could possibly do and with time, patience, hard work and perseverance someday you will reach where you want to be. NEVER GIVE UP.
Signing out for the day with my usual note, keep smiling, smiles can take you miles. Love what you do and do what you love :-)
Spread your wings and fly, you would seem beautiful to the world and the world would seem beautiful to you.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
In a movie we see the various aspects but in general we do not notice little things which are really important and we all need to learn to fight our fears. When we are scared of something, I am sure all of us have some fear or the other in life, it could be a thought, a person, an animal, could be pursuit of success, could be fear to fail,,,,,,, endless emotions which are connected to our fear within and you bet on it, if we don't actually face the fear it chases us all our life and even leads to death at times.
According to me the best way to remove it is to face it, Imagine that the worst thing you dread has happened and then what next ? What would you do when something you always were scared of happens, I am sure you would think of some solution to come out of it or withstand it, you may pray, you may feed positive thoughts, you may seek other alternatives for the worst situation and when you actually think this way, you find that its not that bad, you knew how to come out of it, you have ideas where in you can manage the situation even at its worst, then why be afraid. We are only afraid of something until we actually face it.
For example during exams we all fear about the percentage, the competition, the humiliation if not performed well, but we tend to forget that while worrying about all these things we are actually hindering our efforts and performance deteriorates, when you do some task without any fear inside and with confidence the outcome is always better, and could be the best if we do the tasks happily, sincerely and confidently.
Another fear which we all undergo at sometime or the other in life is a loss of a relationship, Adesh lost his father when he was only 15,he would not have imagined in his wildest dreams that something like this might happen to them but it did, and though it seemed impossible but they made their way through, that does not mean that you start imagining that something like this would happen to you but, what I mean to say is there is no situation in life which cannot be dealt with, could be loss of a job, failure in interviews.......etc...etc. I think we can only survive when we begin any task with a "Hope for the best and be prepared for the worst" attitude.
It's easier said than done but if when the worst happens and we manage it then why be scared and make others scared as well. If you have any kind of threat on your mind then, I feel that instead of showing panic, getting depressed and creating a very tough environment for yourself and either the family or organization better look for a solution out imagining the worst which can happen and also plan your tasks as per your goal, and give your best shot without bothering much about the results or the consequences. Believe in Yourself and also believe in the others around you, they say treat the others as you want to be treated by them.
Fight your fears, be confident, facing the fear takes you a step ahead towards winning and reaching your goal. Life gives you two options to everything either participate or run away, running away will lead you nowhere, where as participating may not give the desired result always but for sure you will have the satisfaction of having done whatever best you could possibly do and with time, patience, hard work and perseverance someday you will reach where you want to be. NEVER GIVE UP.
Signing out for the day with my usual note, keep smiling, smiles can take you miles. Love what you do and do what you love :-)
Spread your wings and fly, you would seem beautiful to the world and the world would seem beautiful to you.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Sunday, March 13, 2011
I dont know what to say............
Good Evening :-)
Well I truly don't know what to say, sometimes we are just blank, aren't we, its happiness, its surprises, its fear, its worry, its love, its loneliness....... n number of emotions put together and the mind goes blank, but I guess on such moments just write it out, or speak to yourself or speak to a pet, speak to plants, I got these ideas from many different people I met at a workshop I participated in here at Ahmedabad Management Association.
It was fun to interact with different people, knowing new things, learning from the people around us and most of all,I felt there is so much more to do in life, usually we all come to a point and start feeling that we have done enough but here i learned that learning never ends till your last breath.
One workshop was about developing Emotional Intelligence(EI) and I guess it is much more important that trying to improve our IQ, because there we did a few tests and exercises where in you come to know where you stand in the level of EI and how to improve it with time and experience.
The other workshop I participated in was about using your creativity which every person has in him/ her some are very creative and some less creative but none are not creative.
On the whole I should say one needs to do those things which bring you closer to yourself and improve yourself too apart from the knowledge gaining it is fun to know many many new concepts and things which we never knew before.
" Whatever made you successful in the past won't make you in the future - quote by CEO HP."
Change is necessary they say and if we keep doing what we have been doing always, we will get only what we have been getting always, we cannot expect to get anything better, so we need to change with time, change as per the generation and also upgrade our knowledge and skills more than the previous day. When we do that we will see a new dimension of success. Success is not only in Profession, its also in personal life, we need to change our way of living, our way of thinking, our way of communicating and a lot more, but that does not mean we need to become like someone else.
Be yourself and improve yourself in a way that you benefit, your family benefits and if in a profession then the Organization benefits and last but not the least the Society or the community benefits. Do not live in the past, leave the past and always concentrate on the present and how to make that better.
Sharing a simple example given there, that there's a man who says that its a record in my life till date I have never ever met with an accident. When told that then surely you must be a very careful and good driver the man answers that I don't know how to drive, and the other person says Good for sure your record will remain intact till the end. A person who does nothing makes no mistakes and trust me I believe in making mistakes and learning from them rather than not doing anything in life.
Anyway enough of the learning and sharing lessons part. What about doing something else, bandana's blog has to have her touch, otherwise it would be incomplete. tomorrow try one thing when you wake up from sleep, wake up with a smile and do something unusual like......... put on music and before you begin your daily routine share a small dance with your spouse before he leaves for office or kids before they leave for the exams to School. Impossible is it,,,, try just 1 melodious song and 1 twist and turn just for 5 mins, if u do not have enough time and check it out your spouse, your kid and you will have the best of day ;-).
Life is beautiful, we just need to keep smiling. You are never completely dressed until you wear a smile, said by Mahatma Gandhiji. I guess we need to obey ;-).
Keep Smiling and I am signing off for the day and I am surely gonna share a dance tomorrow with my son, its his maths exam tomorrow and Avani is dancing all day these days, hahaha, her exams are over and she loves to sing and dance, in fact even now me n my son, we are hearing FM and he is doing his maths problems and singing along and its so much fun...........Srijan sings beautifully and I take all the credit its genetic, well his dad sings better than me ;-). Sir I have given the credit to you, you be happy :-)
I have attached a snap of Srijan of sometime back when he inserted this quote on the snap and I understood it now :-)
Good Night India and Good day to the US friends.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Well I truly don't know what to say, sometimes we are just blank, aren't we, its happiness, its surprises, its fear, its worry, its love, its loneliness....... n number of emotions put together and the mind goes blank, but I guess on such moments just write it out, or speak to yourself or speak to a pet, speak to plants, I got these ideas from many different people I met at a workshop I participated in here at Ahmedabad Management Association.
It was fun to interact with different people, knowing new things, learning from the people around us and most of all,I felt there is so much more to do in life, usually we all come to a point and start feeling that we have done enough but here i learned that learning never ends till your last breath.
One workshop was about developing Emotional Intelligence(EI) and I guess it is much more important that trying to improve our IQ, because there we did a few tests and exercises where in you come to know where you stand in the level of EI and how to improve it with time and experience.
The other workshop I participated in was about using your creativity which every person has in him/ her some are very creative and some less creative but none are not creative.
On the whole I should say one needs to do those things which bring you closer to yourself and improve yourself too apart from the knowledge gaining it is fun to know many many new concepts and things which we never knew before.
" Whatever made you successful in the past won't make you in the future - quote by CEO HP."
Change is necessary they say and if we keep doing what we have been doing always, we will get only what we have been getting always, we cannot expect to get anything better, so we need to change with time, change as per the generation and also upgrade our knowledge and skills more than the previous day. When we do that we will see a new dimension of success. Success is not only in Profession, its also in personal life, we need to change our way of living, our way of thinking, our way of communicating and a lot more, but that does not mean we need to become like someone else.
Be yourself and improve yourself in a way that you benefit, your family benefits and if in a profession then the Organization benefits and last but not the least the Society or the community benefits. Do not live in the past, leave the past and always concentrate on the present and how to make that better.
Sharing a simple example given there, that there's a man who says that its a record in my life till date I have never ever met with an accident. When told that then surely you must be a very careful and good driver the man answers that I don't know how to drive, and the other person says Good for sure your record will remain intact till the end. A person who does nothing makes no mistakes and trust me I believe in making mistakes and learning from them rather than not doing anything in life.
Anyway enough of the learning and sharing lessons part. What about doing something else, bandana's blog has to have her touch, otherwise it would be incomplete. tomorrow try one thing when you wake up from sleep, wake up with a smile and do something unusual like......... put on music and before you begin your daily routine share a small dance with your spouse before he leaves for office or kids before they leave for the exams to School. Impossible is it,,,, try just 1 melodious song and 1 twist and turn just for 5 mins, if u do not have enough time and check it out your spouse, your kid and you will have the best of day ;-).
Life is beautiful, we just need to keep smiling. You are never completely dressed until you wear a smile, said by Mahatma Gandhiji. I guess we need to obey ;-).
Keep Smiling and I am signing off for the day and I am surely gonna share a dance tomorrow with my son, its his maths exam tomorrow and Avani is dancing all day these days, hahaha, her exams are over and she loves to sing and dance, in fact even now me n my son, we are hearing FM and he is doing his maths problems and singing along and its so much fun...........Srijan sings beautifully and I take all the credit its genetic, well his dad sings better than me ;-). Sir I have given the credit to you, you be happy :-)
I have attached a snap of Srijan of sometime back when he inserted this quote on the snap and I understood it now :-)
Good Night India and Good day to the US friends.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Monday, March 7, 2011
My beautiful self is made up of you all
Today is Women's day and I am proud to be a woman. I want to say a few words for some of the lovely women I know and I am inspired by, it may be a long long post because the names are endless and the feelings infinite and its important for me to show my gratitude at least to a few special ones who made me what I am.
It can never begin without mentioning my mother's name, She is Pushpa Mohta, She is like the divine grace of God, All the faith and strength in me is just a fraction of what she has in her. She is the best cook, the best teacher, the best critic too. I love her a lot, though I fight the most with her ever since she has given birth to me but she forgives me every time and loves me unconditionally. I love you maa. Words can never describe what she exactly is. Never seen a lady so strong and so dedicated towards her religion, she can make anyone feel the presence of God in and around oneself. I could never match her expectations whether in hard work, cooking, prayers she does, everything in her, is far beyond my reach. I may have to take many more births to become like her.
My best friend for life Prema Aunty, She is an epitome of love and beauty, only studied till 5th Standard in kannada medium but you see her, you talk to her, cannot make out that she is anyway less than me or you the educated world. The best thing in her, she continuously learns to improve her self in every way, ever willing to share, give and receive whatever she knows. What I loved most in her, She would wake up at 5am exercise till 5.30am and at 6am you would see her bathed and fresh, dressed beautifully in a starched cotton saree and smiling then and all day long. God gave her the worst difficulty last year, she lost her 27 year old handsome Son in an accident but speak to her now, she will teach you, how to over come the grief. She sings songs hindi and English though she may never understand them and she loves Lata Mangeshkar and hears all the beautiful songs of today and the old days. She is my mothers age, but you meet her, she can give a complex to many beautiful young ladies, its her inner beauty and selfless love she has in her for every soul on earth which keeps her glowing.
My mother in law very strict, very particular about the cleanliness at home, the cooking part, the budget maintenance, the respect for elders, the handicrafts she made. She always wanted me to be like her, though again its difficult to stand up to her expectations but I learned a lot from her in life just because she was strict. Her best qualities is that she is a fighter, she lost her husband when she was so young and her 2 sons 15 and 17yr old and no support from anyone whosoever in the family but she never gave up. A very dedicated wife till her husband lived and an equally dedicated mother till date. I fight with her too, but not like I do with my mother and she does not forgive me too like my mother does but trust me she loves me though she may have complaints from me because I am not the kind of person she wants me to be, but I too always loved her and I still love her a lot for the person she is, the courageous woman who never took her physical handicap as an obstacle, she could work better than all of us. Again not so educated but always willing to learn and capable of handling all the home and outside jobs including banks, managing a factory When papaji lived, and the mother of 2 proud sons as they love her more than anything in this world. She reads books of knowledge and she always has some or the other hand work on, like embroidery, paint, sweaters, knitting laces and loves to sit with like minded people who share common interests.
Suman didi my sis in law, she was a class mate of my hubby since 2nd std. No blood relation but I am sure he could not have asked for a better sister. She taught me to love my mother in law the way she loves her, from the eyes of a daughter. I owe her to have given me a different attitude of loving your husband and in laws more than your own family where you grew up. She is a well educated lady, a teacher in real life and very very dedicated towards her duties and her work. Beyond Compare, I can again never be like her.
Can I ever complete this post, No I don't think so, because its highly impossible to mention all the different names who have helped me to see a new perspective of Life, work, relationships and things around me. If I go on writing about each person it will fill pages but yes I do want to express my gratitude to the following:
My Grand mothers, all my aunts mothers and father side, my co sister cum cousin, the greatest support of my married life Jiji, She is another very dedicated woman. My 2 Bhabhi's Anju and Teju, My female friends including wives of my male friends and Adesh's friends across the Globe, my nieces, my daughters Vandana, Srishti and Avani, All My subject teachers in School and College, my colleagues at work, my clients and the women who inspired me and encouraged me always. I'd like to mention a few names Garima, Vibhuti, Prabha, Rama di, Nupur, Nisha, Varsha, Manjusha mam, Dr. Heena Rach and the list goes on and on.
If I would not have mentioned any name or relationship whatsoever which is important to me, sI am sure those women I know and love, know that I love them and respect them for whatever they are and what they mean to me.
I salute all the above and whoever is reading this post. I truly, truly believe that my beautiful self is made up of you all.
Thank you God and Thank you all. I am proud to be ME and I am proud to know you.
Every Woman on earth whom God has sent to this world makes a difference to her family, her work and her own world.
A daughter, a sister, a wife, a friend, a lover, a sister in law, a mother, a mother in law, an aunt, a grand mother, be it any role, she fits in perfectly and adapts to situations perfectly.
As Strong as a mountain at times, as weak as a creeper, as delicate as the petal of a flower and sometimes so hard that you would wonder to see the transformations in her........so imperfect at times yet so complete.
I love you.
I have attached the snap of my spiritual mother, I worship her since childhood, my Yamuna maa.
Bless me :-)
thatsbandana@gmail.com
It can never begin without mentioning my mother's name, She is Pushpa Mohta, She is like the divine grace of God, All the faith and strength in me is just a fraction of what she has in her. She is the best cook, the best teacher, the best critic too. I love her a lot, though I fight the most with her ever since she has given birth to me but she forgives me every time and loves me unconditionally. I love you maa. Words can never describe what she exactly is. Never seen a lady so strong and so dedicated towards her religion, she can make anyone feel the presence of God in and around oneself. I could never match her expectations whether in hard work, cooking, prayers she does, everything in her, is far beyond my reach. I may have to take many more births to become like her.
My best friend for life Prema Aunty, She is an epitome of love and beauty, only studied till 5th Standard in kannada medium but you see her, you talk to her, cannot make out that she is anyway less than me or you the educated world. The best thing in her, she continuously learns to improve her self in every way, ever willing to share, give and receive whatever she knows. What I loved most in her, She would wake up at 5am exercise till 5.30am and at 6am you would see her bathed and fresh, dressed beautifully in a starched cotton saree and smiling then and all day long. God gave her the worst difficulty last year, she lost her 27 year old handsome Son in an accident but speak to her now, she will teach you, how to over come the grief. She sings songs hindi and English though she may never understand them and she loves Lata Mangeshkar and hears all the beautiful songs of today and the old days. She is my mothers age, but you meet her, she can give a complex to many beautiful young ladies, its her inner beauty and selfless love she has in her for every soul on earth which keeps her glowing.
My mother in law very strict, very particular about the cleanliness at home, the cooking part, the budget maintenance, the respect for elders, the handicrafts she made. She always wanted me to be like her, though again its difficult to stand up to her expectations but I learned a lot from her in life just because she was strict. Her best qualities is that she is a fighter, she lost her husband when she was so young and her 2 sons 15 and 17yr old and no support from anyone whosoever in the family but she never gave up. A very dedicated wife till her husband lived and an equally dedicated mother till date. I fight with her too, but not like I do with my mother and she does not forgive me too like my mother does but trust me she loves me though she may have complaints from me because I am not the kind of person she wants me to be, but I too always loved her and I still love her a lot for the person she is, the courageous woman who never took her physical handicap as an obstacle, she could work better than all of us. Again not so educated but always willing to learn and capable of handling all the home and outside jobs including banks, managing a factory When papaji lived, and the mother of 2 proud sons as they love her more than anything in this world. She reads books of knowledge and she always has some or the other hand work on, like embroidery, paint, sweaters, knitting laces and loves to sit with like minded people who share common interests.
Suman didi my sis in law, she was a class mate of my hubby since 2nd std. No blood relation but I am sure he could not have asked for a better sister. She taught me to love my mother in law the way she loves her, from the eyes of a daughter. I owe her to have given me a different attitude of loving your husband and in laws more than your own family where you grew up. She is a well educated lady, a teacher in real life and very very dedicated towards her duties and her work. Beyond Compare, I can again never be like her.
Can I ever complete this post, No I don't think so, because its highly impossible to mention all the different names who have helped me to see a new perspective of Life, work, relationships and things around me. If I go on writing about each person it will fill pages but yes I do want to express my gratitude to the following:
My Grand mothers, all my aunts mothers and father side, my co sister cum cousin, the greatest support of my married life Jiji, She is another very dedicated woman. My 2 Bhabhi's Anju and Teju, My female friends including wives of my male friends and Adesh's friends across the Globe, my nieces, my daughters Vandana, Srishti and Avani, All My subject teachers in School and College, my colleagues at work, my clients and the women who inspired me and encouraged me always. I'd like to mention a few names Garima, Vibhuti, Prabha, Rama di, Nupur, Nisha, Varsha, Manjusha mam, Dr. Heena Rach and the list goes on and on.
If I would not have mentioned any name or relationship whatsoever which is important to me, sI am sure those women I know and love, know that I love them and respect them for whatever they are and what they mean to me.
I salute all the above and whoever is reading this post. I truly, truly believe that my beautiful self is made up of you all.
Thank you God and Thank you all. I am proud to be ME and I am proud to know you.
Every Woman on earth whom God has sent to this world makes a difference to her family, her work and her own world.
A daughter, a sister, a wife, a friend, a lover, a sister in law, a mother, a mother in law, an aunt, a grand mother, be it any role, she fits in perfectly and adapts to situations perfectly.
As Strong as a mountain at times, as weak as a creeper, as delicate as the petal of a flower and sometimes so hard that you would wonder to see the transformations in her........so imperfect at times yet so complete.
I love you.
I have attached the snap of my spiritual mother, I worship her since childhood, my Yamuna maa.
Bless me :-)
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Sunday, March 6, 2011
Forgot to say hi to you..............
Hi, well strange tittle is it, but when I signed in to my blog, I felt that its been sometime I met myself, When I say myself it means me and you, you because you love to read what I write and me because I write what I love to share with you.
So its been sometime, and I forgot to say hi to you,usually it starts with a hello, hi, How are you, good evening, good morning, whatever the way you greet but it should be natural and without any pretense.
you know what, when I speak to myself and I realize that my thoughts can make me an angel at times and a devil at times, When I am filled with hatred, jealousy, fear, negativity, I turn into a devil and I shout and scream, I fight and I hate everyone around me, I hate life.
but, when I am filled with love, happiness, gratitude and positivity, I become an angel and I can actually love everyone around me and love my life too.
what does it take to be an angel, well very few things and all very simple things, which are so easy to follow but only thing we do not spare time for it.
First of all Look good, wear beautiful clothes, a compliment received pleases everyone, along with the beautiful clothes wear a beautiful smile on the face. Exercise to keep the mind and body fit, it could be physical, a game you love to play, could be spiritual, a prayer you love to say, could be meditation, a connection with God on the way.
hear a song, sing a song if you love to, dance if you want to, say hello to a child next door.
At home, do your duties and morning jobs with a cheerful mind and after all work done, when kids leave to School, hubby to office, look at yourself again and you will find that I have done a good job, everyone was happy, just because I was happy, and If you are a man then be cheerful at office with the colleagues and subordinates.
Try to spend a few minutes with a little child who has just learned to speak, nothing more refreshing than that, whether it is your child or anybody's for that matter and a few minutes with an elderly person who has lived much more life than you and any word uttered from them is like a lesson or a blessing again it could be anyone at home or outside.
Last but not the least, spend a little time with a friend on a call, or a cup of coffee, or a walk anything can be a space out of your daily routine and it makes all the difference in the world.
Staying in touch is so easy these days, through sms, emails, calls and facebook, but as they say if all the roles get mixed up then it becomes clumsy, like when colors mix they become dark, but the wise play all the roles side by side distinctively to form a rainbow.
I had a beautiful day today, I did all the above mentioned things, yes all in a day and I am feeling so good.
The snap I have attached depicts beauty in the most beautiful form God has given it to me in, my daughter with her friends. Thank you God for everything :-)
Signing out for the day, with an old quote " The world is full of beauty, when the heart is full of love "
love always
thatsbandana@gmail.com
So its been sometime, and I forgot to say hi to you,usually it starts with a hello, hi, How are you, good evening, good morning, whatever the way you greet but it should be natural and without any pretense.
you know what, when I speak to myself and I realize that my thoughts can make me an angel at times and a devil at times, When I am filled with hatred, jealousy, fear, negativity, I turn into a devil and I shout and scream, I fight and I hate everyone around me, I hate life.
but, when I am filled with love, happiness, gratitude and positivity, I become an angel and I can actually love everyone around me and love my life too.
what does it take to be an angel, well very few things and all very simple things, which are so easy to follow but only thing we do not spare time for it.
First of all Look good, wear beautiful clothes, a compliment received pleases everyone, along with the beautiful clothes wear a beautiful smile on the face. Exercise to keep the mind and body fit, it could be physical, a game you love to play, could be spiritual, a prayer you love to say, could be meditation, a connection with God on the way.
hear a song, sing a song if you love to, dance if you want to, say hello to a child next door.
At home, do your duties and morning jobs with a cheerful mind and after all work done, when kids leave to School, hubby to office, look at yourself again and you will find that I have done a good job, everyone was happy, just because I was happy, and If you are a man then be cheerful at office with the colleagues and subordinates.
Try to spend a few minutes with a little child who has just learned to speak, nothing more refreshing than that, whether it is your child or anybody's for that matter and a few minutes with an elderly person who has lived much more life than you and any word uttered from them is like a lesson or a blessing again it could be anyone at home or outside.
Last but not the least, spend a little time with a friend on a call, or a cup of coffee, or a walk anything can be a space out of your daily routine and it makes all the difference in the world.
Staying in touch is so easy these days, through sms, emails, calls and facebook, but as they say if all the roles get mixed up then it becomes clumsy, like when colors mix they become dark, but the wise play all the roles side by side distinctively to form a rainbow.
I had a beautiful day today, I did all the above mentioned things, yes all in a day and I am feeling so good.
The snap I have attached depicts beauty in the most beautiful form God has given it to me in, my daughter with her friends. Thank you God for everything :-)
Signing out for the day, with an old quote " The world is full of beauty, when the heart is full of love "
love always
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Lazy Summers
My tittle itself shows how lazy I am feeling, hahaha, well its too hot here out at Ahmedabad and my room where I am with Srijan is on the terrace, just one room, so you can imagine the heat, I don't know what the temperature must be, but its scorching heat.
But today while thinking this way I just remembered that there were times when we(Me n Adesh) used to live in a room on a terrace in one of our houses at Raipur then, and we stayed there for almost for 5 years and around 3 years without any cooler too, but times change and we lived in different houses, in better houses and worser ones too.
Two things came to my mind, one that when I enjoyed the winter here in this room then why complain about the heat, its also a part and parcel of the fun I have been having here or the problems I have been facing here. So let me love and Enjoy this too.
Second thing that Do the rooms and the infra structure matter or the moments spent, wherever you live, I felt that Yes a nice sopihisticated infra structure does make one feel good, to stay in but If we feel good inside and love everything around wholly then any place could be the best and we could live happily there and sometimes even the best of environment cannot satisfy one if we are sad or negative inside us.
Life shows us all, good moments, bad moments, difficult moments and easy moments too but one thing is for sure which we all need to remember and always feel good about that............
"NOTHING LASTS FOREVER"
If its good also it will pass, and if its bad then also it will pass, so Don't Boast when Life is at its best and Don't regret when Life is at its worst. I learned this after seeing the best and the worst but still I can never say there may be worser things yet to come or better things too, So I just live today and every morning wake up and say Good morning to all my friends and dear ones on sms and to Myself too. And when the day ends, I Thank God because I do not know about the others but for me I have noticed
" My days are never completely happy but never completely sad either "
So I keep smiling thinking of the happy times and sometimes cry at the sad ones, but all gets over.
Hey today's post got a bit too serious, but don't worry, this will also pass, Very soon I will come with something really naughty and mischievous.
So Keep smiling and remember, Don't lose your temper - Nobody wants it :-)
thatsbandana@gmail.com
But today while thinking this way I just remembered that there were times when we(Me n Adesh) used to live in a room on a terrace in one of our houses at Raipur then, and we stayed there for almost for 5 years and around 3 years without any cooler too, but times change and we lived in different houses, in better houses and worser ones too.
Two things came to my mind, one that when I enjoyed the winter here in this room then why complain about the heat, its also a part and parcel of the fun I have been having here or the problems I have been facing here. So let me love and Enjoy this too.
Second thing that Do the rooms and the infra structure matter or the moments spent, wherever you live, I felt that Yes a nice sopihisticated infra structure does make one feel good, to stay in but If we feel good inside and love everything around wholly then any place could be the best and we could live happily there and sometimes even the best of environment cannot satisfy one if we are sad or negative inside us.
Life shows us all, good moments, bad moments, difficult moments and easy moments too but one thing is for sure which we all need to remember and always feel good about that............
"NOTHING LASTS FOREVER"
If its good also it will pass, and if its bad then also it will pass, so Don't Boast when Life is at its best and Don't regret when Life is at its worst. I learned this after seeing the best and the worst but still I can never say there may be worser things yet to come or better things too, So I just live today and every morning wake up and say Good morning to all my friends and dear ones on sms and to Myself too. And when the day ends, I Thank God because I do not know about the others but for me I have noticed
" My days are never completely happy but never completely sad either "
So I keep smiling thinking of the happy times and sometimes cry at the sad ones, but all gets over.
Hey today's post got a bit too serious, but don't worry, this will also pass, Very soon I will come with something really naughty and mischievous.
So Keep smiling and remember, Don't lose your temper - Nobody wants it :-)
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Shhhhh.......... It's a Secret ;-) (wink)
Good Morning to myself and all who read this post, its a beautiful day today, started with a prayer and a smile. A prayer because my son's 12th Board exams start today finally, as one of his friends quoted yesterday it is " The beginning of the end" . Well yes the School life ends with this and I wish him and all his dear friends All the Very Best for future career and Life too.
Good Luck to my daughter as well, her exams are also going on and more than that I am waiting for it to get over because she is going to join me and her bro here after the exams, waiting for you sweety pie :-) and missing you lots :'(
Now the Secret,,,,, well its one of the experiences of my college days and as people who know me know that I was too naughty then, I had been to Bombay to my cousins place and by chance happened to see a photograph of a good looking guy at her place. I asked her who this guy was and it was pleasant to know that he was someone who stayed in my home town then Madras. I took his phone no. and name and told my cousin, lets have some fun but she warned me that mind you, don't do anything too mischievous, he is a relative. I said okay no worries.
After returning I called this guy, with a fake name and identity and we spoke very often, those days there were no mobile phones or caller ids, I was safe or he was ( could be either way ;-)).
So it used to be fun talking to him, because he was a very friendly person and also as cool as me to share thoughts and adventures.
One fine day we decided to meet and we were supposed to meet at Landmark a greeting cards gallery. I took a college friend along with me, and at the given time, I saw this guy with 2 rough and tough men along with him, though surprised but I was not scared. He offered me to join him to a near by cakes and bakes shop which was pretty popular then for hang outs. My friend pulled me behind and said Are you crazy you are going alone with these 3 guys whom you do not know, well I said don't worry I know one of them and he's nice.
After finishing this so called date, I returned home and called him obviously to ask why he brought 2 body guards along with him, was he so scared ????
And this was a LOL..... moment because he told me that ever since he was talking to me he felt that I was some kind of bait laid for him by his x-y-z girl friends brother who was behind his life after he knew about their relationship, though then it was all over between him and the pretty girl then, and trust me I burst out laughing, I still laugh whenever I recollect that episode.
Anyway after this I unfolded my true identity and also the fun factor for which I was talking to him and my cousin, me and him shared a hearty laughter. We spoke and met very rarely after that, none of us intended to take this ahead seriously so it was a simple friendship, but the best part is we kept getting updates about each other and once in a while came across each other on common weddings and also when my cousin visited Chennai.
This year I met him and his wife after many years and needless to say it was a pleasure to meet all of them, no names mentioned because no offence meant to anyone, it was just one of the fun episodes of my college life wanted to share it because yesterday was a sweet moment,when I spoke to his son who is a year older than mine for the second time, for career guidance as to what good options available after 12th for my son. Hey, it was great to talk to you sunny, and this wish is for you. God bless all my friends and their family members.
Signing out with a note that Life can be simple, Friendships can be simple yet just like the attached picture of mine edited by my creative son Srijan with the lovely caption on it says, "Simple is Beautiful".
Live life with fun but keep it simple, because its always fun to look back at it and brings a smile to my face and I am sure you are smiling too. Keep smiling, its God's greatest gift to mankind.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Good Luck to my daughter as well, her exams are also going on and more than that I am waiting for it to get over because she is going to join me and her bro here after the exams, waiting for you sweety pie :-) and missing you lots :'(
Now the Secret,,,,, well its one of the experiences of my college days and as people who know me know that I was too naughty then, I had been to Bombay to my cousins place and by chance happened to see a photograph of a good looking guy at her place. I asked her who this guy was and it was pleasant to know that he was someone who stayed in my home town then Madras. I took his phone no. and name and told my cousin, lets have some fun but she warned me that mind you, don't do anything too mischievous, he is a relative. I said okay no worries.
After returning I called this guy, with a fake name and identity and we spoke very often, those days there were no mobile phones or caller ids, I was safe or he was ( could be either way ;-)).
So it used to be fun talking to him, because he was a very friendly person and also as cool as me to share thoughts and adventures.
One fine day we decided to meet and we were supposed to meet at Landmark a greeting cards gallery. I took a college friend along with me, and at the given time, I saw this guy with 2 rough and tough men along with him, though surprised but I was not scared. He offered me to join him to a near by cakes and bakes shop which was pretty popular then for hang outs. My friend pulled me behind and said Are you crazy you are going alone with these 3 guys whom you do not know, well I said don't worry I know one of them and he's nice.
After finishing this so called date, I returned home and called him obviously to ask why he brought 2 body guards along with him, was he so scared ????
And this was a LOL..... moment because he told me that ever since he was talking to me he felt that I was some kind of bait laid for him by his x-y-z girl friends brother who was behind his life after he knew about their relationship, though then it was all over between him and the pretty girl then, and trust me I burst out laughing, I still laugh whenever I recollect that episode.
Anyway after this I unfolded my true identity and also the fun factor for which I was talking to him and my cousin, me and him shared a hearty laughter. We spoke and met very rarely after that, none of us intended to take this ahead seriously so it was a simple friendship, but the best part is we kept getting updates about each other and once in a while came across each other on common weddings and also when my cousin visited Chennai.
This year I met him and his wife after many years and needless to say it was a pleasure to meet all of them, no names mentioned because no offence meant to anyone, it was just one of the fun episodes of my college life wanted to share it because yesterday was a sweet moment,when I spoke to his son who is a year older than mine for the second time, for career guidance as to what good options available after 12th for my son. Hey, it was great to talk to you sunny, and this wish is for you. God bless all my friends and their family members.
Signing out with a note that Life can be simple, Friendships can be simple yet just like the attached picture of mine edited by my creative son Srijan with the lovely caption on it says, "Simple is Beautiful".
Live life with fun but keep it simple, because its always fun to look back at it and brings a smile to my face and I am sure you are smiling too. Keep smiling, its God's greatest gift to mankind.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Friday, February 25, 2011
On the streets of Ahmedabad
Hey guys wanna share something interesting which happened today while I was going towards the temple with my son on his Activa, smiling to ourselves sharing simple talks.
My son noticed a lady riding her bike in front of us and another man side by side trying to overtake her, the fun was that I was telling my son, actually this lady is looking good from behind and he said and that Uncle is trying to overtake her to see her face, and at the same time he overtook her and turned his face to see her,and we both laughed together.
I told my son lets overtake both of them and see the lady's face and the man reaction and she was kind of okay to look at but the man smiling away as if he had some fun by doing that, I just passed a smile to him turning back and his smile broadened.
It was a simple episode but the fact is the little thing which guys do when young or teenagers they are scared to the same after a certain age, but if u take out time for some little mischief in any age its fun, and that smile keeps you glowing.
I told my son I am sure today after that Uncle reaches home and if his wife or kid is as usual in a not so interesting mode then also he will smile and keep the evening light. I do not know how many of you agree, but this happens, because little mischief in our routine life outside the routine faces helps you stay in a light mood and a smile looks great on anyone's face irrespective of whether you are handsome or not so handsome, whether you are beautiful or not so beautiful, because a smile costs nothing yet it is so invaluable.
I love to spread smiles and so I love to write and I am sure you love to read as well.
Signing out for the day, keep smiling, good night and try this next time you are on a bike, just share a look with a wink or a smile to an unknown person, I do it often and specially with kids because children smiling are the most refreshing faces to look at :-)
I have attached a smiling face of my darling grandson Aayu, isn't it special to see that laughter on his face, specially when he was in my arms. I Love you sooooooooo much Aayu.
My son noticed a lady riding her bike in front of us and another man side by side trying to overtake her, the fun was that I was telling my son, actually this lady is looking good from behind and he said and that Uncle is trying to overtake her to see her face, and at the same time he overtook her and turned his face to see her,and we both laughed together.
I told my son lets overtake both of them and see the lady's face and the man reaction and she was kind of okay to look at but the man smiling away as if he had some fun by doing that, I just passed a smile to him turning back and his smile broadened.
It was a simple episode but the fact is the little thing which guys do when young or teenagers they are scared to the same after a certain age, but if u take out time for some little mischief in any age its fun, and that smile keeps you glowing.
I told my son I am sure today after that Uncle reaches home and if his wife or kid is as usual in a not so interesting mode then also he will smile and keep the evening light. I do not know how many of you agree, but this happens, because little mischief in our routine life outside the routine faces helps you stay in a light mood and a smile looks great on anyone's face irrespective of whether you are handsome or not so handsome, whether you are beautiful or not so beautiful, because a smile costs nothing yet it is so invaluable.
I love to spread smiles and so I love to write and I am sure you love to read as well.
Signing out for the day, keep smiling, good night and try this next time you are on a bike, just share a look with a wink or a smile to an unknown person, I do it often and specially with kids because children smiling are the most refreshing faces to look at :-)
I have attached a smiling face of my darling grandson Aayu, isn't it special to see that laughter on his face, specially when he was in my arms. I Love you sooooooooo much Aayu.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
Take out time to be happy, its not so difficult
Before I do anything new I always chant the name of Lord Ganesha, right from childhood we have been taught that Ganesha is the God who removes obstacles from your path.
Today, apart from the lords name I want to thank all the people who have appreciated me so far for my writing through phone calls, comments or msgs, cannot name each one of them but it feels good when you do something and your loved ones appreciate.
Appreciation is something which makes any person happy, and when I say take out time to be happy, then I also mean take out time to make people happy as well, because when you make a person smile it reflects upon you, happens with me always, may be that is the reason I manage to smile most of the times. And I know I look beautiful when I smile and so do YOU. I do not do anything extraordinary at home or at work, but the simple things I do normally people tend to forget them.
What am I talking about, let me come to the point, right from beginning the day, feel from inside that I am gonna have a beautiful day today, you automatically feel good,but at the same time think that I am going to make the day beautiful for everyone around me too.
Start appreciating, your spouse for having allowed you to sleep a few minutes more than usual, your child for doing his or her work himself someday when you are tired, your family members for the little things they take care of whenever you need their help, your friend for calling you when you feel lonely and need a hearty laugh, your parents to stand by you whenever you feel you might not have done your homework properly and got hit, your neighbor for a compliment he or she gave for your looks, your teacher or your boss for something she taught you and it helped you reach your goal, lots and lots of little things which people around us do for us, which we think its their duty or what the big deal if they did it, why should I thank them, I also do so much.
You know why, because when you do some little or big thing for anyone, you love to be praised and when your deed is appreciated you feel good, trust me, if you also make others feel good the same way, it will return more often to you, not always but for sure you and the people around you would be smiling for that one word of praise they received or they gave it back to you in return.
When people say they love me or I am good at something, its not because I am too good, more often it would be in return to the many no. of times I would have appreciated or loved the little things they do for me.
We all need each other, I may be self sufficient but I also need love from people, I may be very good at planning and doing my work but without my team it would not be possible. I may be very intelligent but still there is a lot I do not know and I need to learn, so at every aspect of life we depend on each other and we forget to appreciate the support we receive, say Thanks, say Sorry, say you are looking great, say without you it would not be possible, say I need you, say You are the best,,,,,,,,,,,most of all as often as you can, to all your dear ones say I love you and I always will.
Ending the note with a quote " Reflect upon your present blessings of which every man has many not on your past misfortunes which all men have some"
Love you all, my world is beautiful because I have all you beautiful people in it.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Today, apart from the lords name I want to thank all the people who have appreciated me so far for my writing through phone calls, comments or msgs, cannot name each one of them but it feels good when you do something and your loved ones appreciate.
Appreciation is something which makes any person happy, and when I say take out time to be happy, then I also mean take out time to make people happy as well, because when you make a person smile it reflects upon you, happens with me always, may be that is the reason I manage to smile most of the times. And I know I look beautiful when I smile and so do YOU. I do not do anything extraordinary at home or at work, but the simple things I do normally people tend to forget them.
What am I talking about, let me come to the point, right from beginning the day, feel from inside that I am gonna have a beautiful day today, you automatically feel good,but at the same time think that I am going to make the day beautiful for everyone around me too.
Start appreciating, your spouse for having allowed you to sleep a few minutes more than usual, your child for doing his or her work himself someday when you are tired, your family members for the little things they take care of whenever you need their help, your friend for calling you when you feel lonely and need a hearty laugh, your parents to stand by you whenever you feel you might not have done your homework properly and got hit, your neighbor for a compliment he or she gave for your looks, your teacher or your boss for something she taught you and it helped you reach your goal, lots and lots of little things which people around us do for us, which we think its their duty or what the big deal if they did it, why should I thank them, I also do so much.
You know why, because when you do some little or big thing for anyone, you love to be praised and when your deed is appreciated you feel good, trust me, if you also make others feel good the same way, it will return more often to you, not always but for sure you and the people around you would be smiling for that one word of praise they received or they gave it back to you in return.
When people say they love me or I am good at something, its not because I am too good, more often it would be in return to the many no. of times I would have appreciated or loved the little things they do for me.
We all need each other, I may be self sufficient but I also need love from people, I may be very good at planning and doing my work but without my team it would not be possible. I may be very intelligent but still there is a lot I do not know and I need to learn, so at every aspect of life we depend on each other and we forget to appreciate the support we receive, say Thanks, say Sorry, say you are looking great, say without you it would not be possible, say I need you, say You are the best,,,,,,,,,,,most of all as often as you can, to all your dear ones say I love you and I always will.
Ending the note with a quote " Reflect upon your present blessings of which every man has many not on your past misfortunes which all men have some"
Love you all, my world is beautiful because I have all you beautiful people in it.
thatsbandana@gmail.com
Friday, February 18, 2011
Smile and the World Smiles back
Weekend morning, usually I sleep till late, today just woke up remembering a few lovely weekends and holidays spent and I thought let me share it with my friends.
Usually what we all do on a holiday, cozy moments at home, may go on a long drive, dine outside with family, a picnic with friends, going to the beach and feeling the fun of playing with the sand and the waves together, watch a movie, lots n lots of things we all do and the day just passes off, yes it is fun and also refreshing.
I remember a few spent differently too, like on holi last to last year, after playing with colours we are usually tired and sleep, but for a change we all sat together after lunch and my son played d nagada, and we all started talking about our favorite songs and each of us singing our favorite ones turn by turn and it was so much fun and also talking about the story behind that song being the favorite, on that day we also clicked snaps and one of them I am attaching with this post, edited by my son and lines written by me.
One may say this can be possible when your kids grow up, well yes for sure, but some more things we can do and some I have done too, like for a change stay at home cook together, Once Adesh made a simple snack for fun and it turned out to be our best dish for a holiday, like boiled potatoes mashed and mixed with bhel and masala and filled them on long finger chips and we all loved to eat it, the idea just came by discussing what to make together instead of one brain taxing itself as to what should be made and doing it all alone. The fun of just being together and joining hands to make the day and the dish special is more special than an ordinary weekend.
And one more thing when ur kids are too small, wear the same coloured clothes, I usually did it when my kids were small, same colour clothes, a nice hair style for d kids, click photographs together, play an akkad bakkad bambe bol, make funny faces, say stories, share jokes, play carrom together, watch a cartoon movie..............and the list goes on. Here I would like to add guys watch the recently released 3D animated movie Tangled with your kids or together, its childish but the movie is BEAUTIFUL. A must watch movie.
Hey hubby, I am missing those smiling together days, they are lost temporarily,please please come and join us to bring back that magic back in our lives, I am missing us together. Do you remember what we gifted once on your birthday a small peice of work embroidered on a cloth, made by Srijan(my son)
"You are the SUN around which We all revolve"
The smiles are missing, but to all who read this, if you have lived such moments, good and keep it up, and if never tried such simple things which make life beautiful then live them now. The magic is within us and not the places we visit. If its WE, we can be happy always.
Keep smiling, as I said Smile and the world smiles back and when we all smile together Oh!!!! Undoubtedly The world looks more beautiful, and this moment I can see you smiling, just keep that on always. God bless all of us.
Usually what we all do on a holiday, cozy moments at home, may go on a long drive, dine outside with family, a picnic with friends, going to the beach and feeling the fun of playing with the sand and the waves together, watch a movie, lots n lots of things we all do and the day just passes off, yes it is fun and also refreshing.
I remember a few spent differently too, like on holi last to last year, after playing with colours we are usually tired and sleep, but for a change we all sat together after lunch and my son played d nagada, and we all started talking about our favorite songs and each of us singing our favorite ones turn by turn and it was so much fun and also talking about the story behind that song being the favorite, on that day we also clicked snaps and one of them I am attaching with this post, edited by my son and lines written by me.
One may say this can be possible when your kids grow up, well yes for sure, but some more things we can do and some I have done too, like for a change stay at home cook together, Once Adesh made a simple snack for fun and it turned out to be our best dish for a holiday, like boiled potatoes mashed and mixed with bhel and masala and filled them on long finger chips and we all loved to eat it, the idea just came by discussing what to make together instead of one brain taxing itself as to what should be made and doing it all alone. The fun of just being together and joining hands to make the day and the dish special is more special than an ordinary weekend.
And one more thing when ur kids are too small, wear the same coloured clothes, I usually did it when my kids were small, same colour clothes, a nice hair style for d kids, click photographs together, play an akkad bakkad bambe bol, make funny faces, say stories, share jokes, play carrom together, watch a cartoon movie..............and the list goes on. Here I would like to add guys watch the recently released 3D animated movie Tangled with your kids or together, its childish but the movie is BEAUTIFUL. A must watch movie.
Hey hubby, I am missing those smiling together days, they are lost temporarily,please please come and join us to bring back that magic back in our lives, I am missing us together. Do you remember what we gifted once on your birthday a small peice of work embroidered on a cloth, made by Srijan(my son)
"You are the SUN around which We all revolve"
The smiles are missing, but to all who read this, if you have lived such moments, good and keep it up, and if never tried such simple things which make life beautiful then live them now. The magic is within us and not the places we visit. If its WE, we can be happy always.
Keep smiling, as I said Smile and the world smiles back and when we all smile together Oh!!!! Undoubtedly The world looks more beautiful, and this moment I can see you smiling, just keep that on always. God bless all of us.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
The length of a mini skirt
Good Morning
I told my morning group of friends to start thier day with a positive feeling and give their best shot. So I thought let me also do that.
Well why I wrote the length of a mini skirt is because once I got a msg from a friend saying " A good lecture should be like the length of a mini skirt, short enough to create interest and long enough to cover the subject "
Yesterday while writing my blog I made it long and later I was thinking its getting kinda little out of the subject, the jist was in the last 2 or 3 paragraphs.
Today I am sharing one example of doing interesting things once in while, may be once in 6 months or less or more, but Do it.
Have you ever kept awake all night with a friend, a cousin, room mate, brother and sister, with your spouse, with your children, chatting all night, eating, sharing funny episodes or the adventures experienced,if not on week days but try it on a weekend when you dont have to bother about how tired you will be.
I have done it a couple of times and trust me its so much fun and after keeping awake all night, early morning go to the terrace and see the sun rise and experience this beautiful feeling of enjoying nature's beauty, the voice of chirping birds, the dew on leaves of trees around, the colour of the sky, the smell of the morning fresh air.
I know all that can be seen without keeping awake all night but the fun and the happiness, the excitement of having spent time with someone you love a lot, all night and watching the sunrise with that person, hand in hand or in a group,trust me, you will remember it all your life and so will your children or friends or loved one, whoever has shared it with you.
This weekend try doing this and I am sure you will come and say Thanks to me. For those who have already done it, I know that you would love to do it again.
Live life with fun and Enjoy every moment God has given you, its only you who can add beauty to your life, Dont stop living before you Die. Life is only once and experience those Once in a lifetime moments.
With this note I am signing out for the day, see you tomorrow, have a fantastic day ahead. Keep smiling :)
I told my morning group of friends to start thier day with a positive feeling and give their best shot. So I thought let me also do that.
Well why I wrote the length of a mini skirt is because once I got a msg from a friend saying " A good lecture should be like the length of a mini skirt, short enough to create interest and long enough to cover the subject "
Yesterday while writing my blog I made it long and later I was thinking its getting kinda little out of the subject, the jist was in the last 2 or 3 paragraphs.
Today I am sharing one example of doing interesting things once in while, may be once in 6 months or less or more, but Do it.
Have you ever kept awake all night with a friend, a cousin, room mate, brother and sister, with your spouse, with your children, chatting all night, eating, sharing funny episodes or the adventures experienced,if not on week days but try it on a weekend when you dont have to bother about how tired you will be.
I have done it a couple of times and trust me its so much fun and after keeping awake all night, early morning go to the terrace and see the sun rise and experience this beautiful feeling of enjoying nature's beauty, the voice of chirping birds, the dew on leaves of trees around, the colour of the sky, the smell of the morning fresh air.
I know all that can be seen without keeping awake all night but the fun and the happiness, the excitement of having spent time with someone you love a lot, all night and watching the sunrise with that person, hand in hand or in a group,trust me, you will remember it all your life and so will your children or friends or loved one, whoever has shared it with you.
This weekend try doing this and I am sure you will come and say Thanks to me. For those who have already done it, I know that you would love to do it again.
Live life with fun and Enjoy every moment God has given you, its only you who can add beauty to your life, Dont stop living before you Die. Life is only once and experience those Once in a lifetime moments.
With this note I am signing out for the day, see you tomorrow, have a fantastic day ahead. Keep smiling :)
The importance of an hour for myself
How many times in life we all, whether when we were children or teenagers or grown up Men and women, we sit and think according to our individual responsibilities the list of work already done and the list yet to be completed and the pressure of the list for which we are not finding time and it goes on and on.
In today's competetive world every human being is under pressure, when its children who are in the primary School they have this pressure of waking up early in the morning and then getting ready for School, if homework done then fine, if not the pressure of the scoldings one is going to get at School, then at School again the competition with fellow students not only to get good grades but even to understand what is being taught and at times fear of getting up to ask any doubts that people may laugh at you...... its an unending list, then back home again pressure if parents are in a good mood then fine but if they are stressed up then hell at home too.
The teenagers have their own problems apart from studies, career and aim which they kind of decide but aren't very sure and the preachings and pressure from every individual around as to what to do and what not to, apart from that friends. There is this time when one shapes up his individual self too coming out of the comfortable zone of parents and family, some are shy, some are talkative, some expressive and some very quiet. So again the pressure of just one little thing that no one understands me, it is the time when such thoughts spring up on your mind, and as per people's reactions those thoughts either reach a saturation point and one revolts or they completely subside and an individual gets the label of what he or she looks like to the outside world.
The college days are kind of the best days of life because then one knows what he is doing and he has decided where he is going and he also has the freedom to make friends as per his choice and its the time when one dreams as to what he is going to have or become in personal and professional life. In this time there is one and only pressure of being or not being in love, if you are in love, its beautiful till it does not end and once it ends again pressure, and if your not then pressure as to why I am not finding the person, or why I am unable to express, or why is the other person not saying yes...... still its more of fun time and people enjoy the college days mostly.
After College again pressure if you get the right job, the right partner for life as per your dreams and ambitions then fine but if no then endless stress, one starts feeling like a failure and forgets what one has achieved till that time in life and also that this is not the end, there is lot more to come good and bad.
Marriage again is the beginning of another school, an entirely new world which you step in whether its a girl or a boy they have to bring changes in thier routine life, one has to mould onesself as per the family and spouses requirements. Motherhood is a very beautiful but very hard venture Woman are blessed with. So again starts a pre primary stage till your just 2 people, then primary, high school and higher secondary as your children grow you feel the same or even more pressure which you might have felt in your School days.
For men it is the time to prove thier caliber by earning and managing a family though nowadays women are also sharing the responsibility of running the family but that also is not an easy task to understand the schedules of each other and adjust accordingly.
Old age is the most tough stage of life becasue by then you are left with a lot of memories good and bad as per your actions and reactions of people. By then it may be a collection of mistakes or a collection of beautiful moments lived, and when you have less work and a weak body you start looking back upon life, which you lived the way you wanted to, even if it was not your way, it is you who decided to live it other peoples way so then many of us start regretting many things done and many feel proud to look back and see how they succeeded in life and what they acheived but even to them old age is difficult becasue after all the success, now sitting idle or listening to people younger to you gets painful.
Basically Life is not easy for any person at any stage, to look at from outside I may feel your life is good and you may feel mine is good becasue we all spend our life looking at other people and comparing our lives and ourselves.
Now here comes the importance of an hour for myself, I want all of you who read this to start it today and within a month you will be a much more happier person than you now are.
Please dont think I am preaching, becasue preachers just preach, they dont practise what they say, and this is not religion, this is not knowledge, this is not meditation or anything which one suggests when you are in stress.
This is the most simple and beautiful way of living life with a smile. Spend one hour everyday in doing what you like. Now you have to decide what you love to do, it could be any of the following
Sing Songs
Dance
Make a painting
Read a book
Hear music
Watch your favorite program on TV
Exercise, Swimming, Aerobics, health programs
Take a walk
Sit at a garden bench and watch children playing
Talk to a friend
Play games indoor or outdoor
Pray, Read or discuss Religion
Write and share your feelings
Browse any networking site and connect with friends
The options can be infinite, but whatever you choose to do should be something you dont do normally and something which you always loved to do, or dreamt of doing. Spend that one hour in doing what you like with complete passion and let that be your time, where you are just YOU.
Trust my words you will notice a change in your whole world, becasue life does not change, it is a mixture of gains and pains, wins and losses, happiness and sorrows, it cannot be perfect, it has to be balanced, but YOU will change and they say if you want to change the world CHANGE YOURSELF.
Do take my words seriously becasue I am serious very rarely in life :-)
I practise what I say, I have always tried and mostly succedded in living life with a smile, though I dont say I never complain or cry, well we are all human and simple people so we can be natural just the way we are.
My post is getting longer today, but when i start something I need to finish it the right way. So friends and readers, try what I said and then let me know what changes you saw in yourself.
Rest in next, please give me your feedback and suggestions for all of us will learn more from each other.
In today's competetive world every human being is under pressure, when its children who are in the primary School they have this pressure of waking up early in the morning and then getting ready for School, if homework done then fine, if not the pressure of the scoldings one is going to get at School, then at School again the competition with fellow students not only to get good grades but even to understand what is being taught and at times fear of getting up to ask any doubts that people may laugh at you...... its an unending list, then back home again pressure if parents are in a good mood then fine but if they are stressed up then hell at home too.
The teenagers have their own problems apart from studies, career and aim which they kind of decide but aren't very sure and the preachings and pressure from every individual around as to what to do and what not to, apart from that friends. There is this time when one shapes up his individual self too coming out of the comfortable zone of parents and family, some are shy, some are talkative, some expressive and some very quiet. So again the pressure of just one little thing that no one understands me, it is the time when such thoughts spring up on your mind, and as per people's reactions those thoughts either reach a saturation point and one revolts or they completely subside and an individual gets the label of what he or she looks like to the outside world.
The college days are kind of the best days of life because then one knows what he is doing and he has decided where he is going and he also has the freedom to make friends as per his choice and its the time when one dreams as to what he is going to have or become in personal and professional life. In this time there is one and only pressure of being or not being in love, if you are in love, its beautiful till it does not end and once it ends again pressure, and if your not then pressure as to why I am not finding the person, or why I am unable to express, or why is the other person not saying yes...... still its more of fun time and people enjoy the college days mostly.
After College again pressure if you get the right job, the right partner for life as per your dreams and ambitions then fine but if no then endless stress, one starts feeling like a failure and forgets what one has achieved till that time in life and also that this is not the end, there is lot more to come good and bad.
Marriage again is the beginning of another school, an entirely new world which you step in whether its a girl or a boy they have to bring changes in thier routine life, one has to mould onesself as per the family and spouses requirements. Motherhood is a very beautiful but very hard venture Woman are blessed with. So again starts a pre primary stage till your just 2 people, then primary, high school and higher secondary as your children grow you feel the same or even more pressure which you might have felt in your School days.
For men it is the time to prove thier caliber by earning and managing a family though nowadays women are also sharing the responsibility of running the family but that also is not an easy task to understand the schedules of each other and adjust accordingly.
Old age is the most tough stage of life becasue by then you are left with a lot of memories good and bad as per your actions and reactions of people. By then it may be a collection of mistakes or a collection of beautiful moments lived, and when you have less work and a weak body you start looking back upon life, which you lived the way you wanted to, even if it was not your way, it is you who decided to live it other peoples way so then many of us start regretting many things done and many feel proud to look back and see how they succeeded in life and what they acheived but even to them old age is difficult becasue after all the success, now sitting idle or listening to people younger to you gets painful.
Basically Life is not easy for any person at any stage, to look at from outside I may feel your life is good and you may feel mine is good becasue we all spend our life looking at other people and comparing our lives and ourselves.
Now here comes the importance of an hour for myself, I want all of you who read this to start it today and within a month you will be a much more happier person than you now are.
Please dont think I am preaching, becasue preachers just preach, they dont practise what they say, and this is not religion, this is not knowledge, this is not meditation or anything which one suggests when you are in stress.
This is the most simple and beautiful way of living life with a smile. Spend one hour everyday in doing what you like. Now you have to decide what you love to do, it could be any of the following
Sing Songs
Dance
Make a painting
Read a book
Hear music
Watch your favorite program on TV
Exercise, Swimming, Aerobics, health programs
Take a walk
Sit at a garden bench and watch children playing
Talk to a friend
Play games indoor or outdoor
Pray, Read or discuss Religion
Write and share your feelings
Browse any networking site and connect with friends
The options can be infinite, but whatever you choose to do should be something you dont do normally and something which you always loved to do, or dreamt of doing. Spend that one hour in doing what you like with complete passion and let that be your time, where you are just YOU.
Trust my words you will notice a change in your whole world, becasue life does not change, it is a mixture of gains and pains, wins and losses, happiness and sorrows, it cannot be perfect, it has to be balanced, but YOU will change and they say if you want to change the world CHANGE YOURSELF.
Do take my words seriously becasue I am serious very rarely in life :-)
I practise what I say, I have always tried and mostly succedded in living life with a smile, though I dont say I never complain or cry, well we are all human and simple people so we can be natural just the way we are.
My post is getting longer today, but when i start something I need to finish it the right way. So friends and readers, try what I said and then let me know what changes you saw in yourself.
Rest in next, please give me your feedback and suggestions for all of us will learn more from each other.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
My first post
It looks like this is the beginning of a journey which I am gonna travel, with an unknown destination but I know for sure that it is going to be memorable and will take me closer to God. In his name I begin writing today and hoping to improve myself with every passing day.
I invite people to walk along with me one and all who know me and also who do not but, those who believe that Life is only once and there's no time to regret or repent on anything of the past but continuously learn and improve ourselves and keep moving on with a positive mindset that whatever happens, happens for the good.
My mother who is our first teacher in life always says whenever I am happy or troubled in our language that keep chanting Gods name and all will be well. She gave me the inner strength which comes by taking time to pray and spend time in solitude with God. I cant be as dedicated as she is undoubtedly my biggest source of strength.
My father taught me how to live life with fun, enjoy every moment, every festival, love the family heartily, watch movies, sing songs, go on long drives, get wet in rain, play with the waves on sea shores, do all what you can and what you love to do.
My mother in law taught me how to manage a home perfectly, all the house hold jobs and responsibilities which I never used to listen when my maa told me to coz i was having fun then ;-)
My husband I can only tell it in one line, he is my better half, If I am good it is him, If I am bad it is me,hahaha.
My children are the most beautiful part of my life becasue they showed me how beautiful life is despite all the other things, the smiles on thier faces brighten my beautiful world.
Well please do not think that it is all about myself but why I shared these few things first is becasue I believe that What we are is a blend of the beautiful people in our life family and friends. They make our world which we call My world.
And please note No body is perfect and so the people who expect perfection at every place, then this blog is not the right place for you, becasue I am the most imperfect person and yet living a perfect life.
I have a dream and my blog is my first step towards my dream and I know it will come true someday, becasue if you think you can, and you work for your dream, you will definetely reach where you want to be.
My first sharing which we all need to read and try to remember day to day, everyday are a few points which my first best friend in life Prema Aunty taught me, they are a part of the
Principles of Reiki
1. Just for today, I will give thanks for my many blessings and live the attitude of gratitude.
2. Just for today, I will not worry.
3. Just for today, I will not get angry.
4. Just for today, I will do my work honestly.
5. Just for today, I will show love and respect for every living being.
I end my hour today with a simple note that I know that it is difficult to follow the above everytime but it is not difficult to remind ourselves whenever we forget these points by just reading them as many times as it takes to register on our minds.
My readers please share whatever you feel or know on every word I have written because we all learn from each other and as I said before I am here to share more and learn more and the best part is we all would gain by sharing and expressing our thoughts.
Please, please do write whatever comes to your mind whenever you go through every post I share.
Thank you
thatsbandana@gmail.com
I invite people to walk along with me one and all who know me and also who do not but, those who believe that Life is only once and there's no time to regret or repent on anything of the past but continuously learn and improve ourselves and keep moving on with a positive mindset that whatever happens, happens for the good.
My mother who is our first teacher in life always says whenever I am happy or troubled in our language that keep chanting Gods name and all will be well. She gave me the inner strength which comes by taking time to pray and spend time in solitude with God. I cant be as dedicated as she is undoubtedly my biggest source of strength.
My father taught me how to live life with fun, enjoy every moment, every festival, love the family heartily, watch movies, sing songs, go on long drives, get wet in rain, play with the waves on sea shores, do all what you can and what you love to do.
My mother in law taught me how to manage a home perfectly, all the house hold jobs and responsibilities which I never used to listen when my maa told me to coz i was having fun then ;-)
My husband I can only tell it in one line, he is my better half, If I am good it is him, If I am bad it is me,hahaha.
My children are the most beautiful part of my life becasue they showed me how beautiful life is despite all the other things, the smiles on thier faces brighten my beautiful world.
Well please do not think that it is all about myself but why I shared these few things first is becasue I believe that What we are is a blend of the beautiful people in our life family and friends. They make our world which we call My world.
And please note No body is perfect and so the people who expect perfection at every place, then this blog is not the right place for you, becasue I am the most imperfect person and yet living a perfect life.
I have a dream and my blog is my first step towards my dream and I know it will come true someday, becasue if you think you can, and you work for your dream, you will definetely reach where you want to be.
My first sharing which we all need to read and try to remember day to day, everyday are a few points which my first best friend in life Prema Aunty taught me, they are a part of the
Principles of Reiki
1. Just for today, I will give thanks for my many blessings and live the attitude of gratitude.
2. Just for today, I will not worry.
3. Just for today, I will not get angry.
4. Just for today, I will do my work honestly.
5. Just for today, I will show love and respect for every living being.
I end my hour today with a simple note that I know that it is difficult to follow the above everytime but it is not difficult to remind ourselves whenever we forget these points by just reading them as many times as it takes to register on our minds.
My readers please share whatever you feel or know on every word I have written because we all learn from each other and as I said before I am here to share more and learn more and the best part is we all would gain by sharing and expressing our thoughts.
Please, please do write whatever comes to your mind whenever you go through every post I share.
Thank you
thatsbandana@gmail.com
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