Weekend is an awaited time, from our usual routine we get a break, to do the things either we love to do, or the ones which are pending and you pile it up to complete during weekend.
Today I am not in my usual high spirits, because, it is weekend time, I am at work place, sitting as usual, but still I was wondering, how horrible the world would be if we never had friends and family to spend our good times and bad ones with.
Usually we never acknowledge our family members and friends for the kind of fulfillment they bring to our life. Today I am alone, at work, all family members are out, not that life stops, not that there is nothing else to do, not that, I am crying all day, its simply that when you do not have your loved ones close to you, everything seems a little less than usual. A little incomplete, a little slow........
It's good to stay in touch with friends on Phone calls, its nice to view updates on Facebook, its good to check out old snaps and revisit good old memories, but then everything would come to a stand still, if we had no one to share all this with. How Boring and non happening work and home would be, without the people in it.
Just take out some time, look at life, Give a hug to your partner and children, Say " I love you". Are we doing that everyday, if yes I am sure Life is beautiful at your end, but where it is not done, there is love, not that there is no Love and affection, but without expression, it is only a feeling which is suppressed and it does not reach the other.
Expression may not be in words always, it could be a smile, a hug, holding hands, looking into the eyes, When dull simply doing something funny to bring back that smile, or simply sitting quietly with each other, sharing a song, watching a movie together, going on a drive, exercising together, Dancing together, Swimming together, cooking together, anything and everything done Together and all these things are not applicable only for husband and wife or lovers, it is for Parents and children, friends, Loved ones, anyone whom you love, or who loves you and with whom Life feels better.
Along with expression of Love, Freedom is also a major part of being together, we need to know when to leave each other alone and give them the space when they need it. Too much of anything is bad, which holds true for Love and freedom both, but the decision is absolutely the other person's when they want to left alone and when they want to be together, only when you realize this, you know the true meaning of Understanding each other. People say relationships are based on trust, but I have observed that more than trust, Understanding plays a major role. Trust develops gradually when we understand each other better.
Love makes Life beautiful, and Love is never just physical touch, it is so many things we do for each other, just to see a smile on the other's face, or to let them know that " I am there and I shall always be there for you :)"
I do a lot of it and so even one day without all these seems so empty to me, My children and my loved ones, they make life beautiful for me, simply by being in it and enjoying and sharing every expression of Love in words, gestures and actions.
Missing you all specially Adesh, Avani and Srijan. Without you all Life is so meaningless and so empty. I love you. Thank you God for giving me such beautiful people to be called as FAMILY.
Missing all of YOU but more thankful that I have YOU & I belong to YOU :)
Signing off for the day :)
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Saturday, October 27, 2012
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Dussehra: A Victory of Good over Evil, is it true or Just a perception ???
Today Morning I woke up with some thoughts and felt like sharing them with all of you who read what I write, though today's post is different from my usual ones, now it is with a better insight of Life and Thanks to my teachers, Guru's or the people who have taught me so much.
Dussehra: We all say it is a day of Victory of Good over Evil, indeed it is, but it is also a perception of the so called good people that they are good and that Evil people exist in their lives. The fact is that there is Good and Evil, but, there are no Good people or Evil people, and, today I am just showing a new perspective to all who are reading this post, something which I learned off late in Life, from many wonderful people I came across specially after learning Hypno Therapy Concepts from CHII, Special Thanks to Dr. Rajiv Naidu, Yuvraj and Neeta Yuvraj.
When we look at the story of Ramayana, If Sita would not have crossed the Lakhsman Rekha, Ravan would not have kidnapped her and no War would have happened and no Dussehra, to be precise.
The different perceptions can be: Had she not been disobedient, no problems would happen to her and her family. Another perception: Good that she did what she did,so end of Ravan happened which was very important for people living in that time.
The thing is that everything was pre written or pre programmed and Rama took Birth for that war to happen, Ravan became so powerful by penance and did so many things which troubled a lot of people so as to Die in a great War by God himself. Sita was supposed to do what she did, so that this War happens........etc....etc.... and an Example was set, an Epic made out of this story and it is being read and followed in many ways by the world.
Now, if we see it in this way that every person who took birth in that Time period was playing a role which he or she was supposed to play, but when being human, they played it in an absolutely human way, like they fell in love, they had pangs of separation, they fulfilled their duties towards family, they fought for injustice, they kept promises, they also had jealousy, greed and vice, they also used their powers, they also showed what friendship is, what commitments are, what is the consequence of under estimating anyone, what is the consequence of Pride, the consequence of acting without thinking and a lot more lessons conveyed, not naming the different people who played the different roles but, the fact is that every person played his or her role perfectly, without the feeling of anyone being Great or Small, No one played God, they played Human, because they were in human form, and the moment Ravan Died, his role was over and the differences between Rama and Ravan were over too,and then Rama told Laskhmana to learn lessons from Ravan of being a great King. Ravan also thanked Rama for giving him a brave death which he desired to have in that lifetime.
Now let's come out of the story or Ramayana and come back to life, our life, we all have people in our life who play Ravan, who play Vibhishan, who play Hanuman, who play family, who play friends, who play Guru, who play Lover, who fight for us, who care for us, who stand with us in tough times, who back stab us, who hurt us, who shatter our faith, who disobey us, who insult us, and endless roles of endless people, but the moment we understand the fact that all are playing their roles which are pre written simply to teach us lessons of life and make us walk on our plan of life in different ways, just to fulfill whatever big or small goal which we have come here to fulfill and complete our job and Exit with happiness like all in the Ramayana did fulfilling their roles.
The main thing is listening to our inner voice, and doing what it says, because it is only the inner voice which knows what you are here for and what you are supposed to do. For example, it was bad Sita did not listen to Lakhsmana, as per society then, but her inner voice said she needs to go further and she did, and only then the remaining happened. Also Kaikeyi asking for 2 boons, was a part of the story, she had to play that role because she chose to play that, We all play the roles we choose to play in life and the good or bad consequences which follow are again only a part of our choices. There is no one good or bad, people simply play their part in your life, because you chose them to play it.
The hierarchy of family members also is a part of your role, you need to play a child to your parents, Spouse to your partner, Parent to your children, Boss to your team and team to your Boss etc... and according to your role behave adequately as per the need of the hour and position. That is when you play your role in a good way.
There should be no differences between people, there could be differences in Opinion and it could be expressed or if left unexpressed, then simply doing what you feel is right for you, would do good for you.
Even if you think you are doing good, you can always think that you are playing a role of a good character in the drama because you chose to play that role and not have any ego involved. If you are doing bad and you do not feel guilty then also its okay, because may be you are supposed to be that way, but the conflict happens when you do something which your inner voice does not agree to, whether the act be good or bad as per people or belief systems, but then for sure you are doing the wrong thing to yourself and the consequences are not what the other people will face because of you, the consequences are what you will face out of the guilt in you, anger in you or frustration/ depression in you, Pain/ Grief in You Any negative emotion which develops in you because of that act of yours.
"Whatever is happening in your life, it is only you who are responsible for it" My Trainer Dr. Rajiv told me this, the moment I understood, all the problems in my life disappeared one by one gradually, when I started understanding the roles of the other people in my life and mine in theirs and not have any negative emotions attached to me being in my Life the way I am.
I know it is getting longer and at places may not be very clear, because it took years for me to understand, just one small article cannot give all answers, but please feel free to write to me or discuss with me on comments with this article, I would be glad to learn more and share more.
Concluding my article of today with the same thought, there is no good people and bad people, all in our life are playing their role and we need to understand whom we want to choose to retain and whom we choose to let go, after having learned the lesson they came to teach us in our life. Simply play your role, learn and share, Listen to your inner voice, Be what you are meant to be in all relationships, and in the ones which do not work, understand the meaning why God put that person in your life and you will have no complaints or regrets. Most of all - Be Human and be okay with being human.
Love Yourself and Love all, Live and let live, Don't feel guilty if you err, there is a quote " To err is human, to Forgive Divine" and this forgiveness is not only for others, we need to Forgive ourselves too. Being liberated is not renouncing from the world, it is simply understanding that Everything happens for a reason and we can simply let go the emotions attached to the events. Life will be simple, easy and effortless. Why do we need a complicated Life ????? Do we ??????
Signing off for the day
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