Are you confined in commitment?

This morning am writing this for myself and many others who can resonate with what I am sharing. I usually write one morning thought everyday on what's app, Facebook, etc... today what I wanted to share cannot be explained in a short message and its kind of important to reach to the world around me :)

Sharing excerpts from the book "Feel the fear and Do it Anyway" - by Susan Jeffers.

" Commitment, as I am using the term, means consciously giving 100% - everything you've got" - to each aspect of life. Including work, family, friends, leisure, personal growth, hobby, contribution, alone time, spirituality.....etc. whatever it is for you which you would like to do regularly?

"Commitment doesn't mean it has to last forever, but while you are there commit yourself 100%. By doing this, the quality of your life will improve 100%. ACT AS IF YOU REALLY COUNT."

" For example, my job as an executive director of the Floating Hospital brought me great deal of of joy and satisfaction, but after 8 years I began to feel I was ready for another kind of challenge. Since I was totally committed to The Floating Hospital, I was determined that it would operate just as smoothly after my departure as before. I began breaking in for someone to replace me. I began delegating more and more. I gradually familiarized the board of trustees to the new person I thought would be perfect for the job. I prepared everyone for my leaving, so you see that even though I was on my way out, I was committed to the job 100%.
At the same time, I was totally committed to having my life work after I left my job. In my free hours, I began teaching, writing and increasing my psychotherapy practice. In 2 years the ground work had been laid for the future of both, The floating hospital and my new career."

All this and more when i read sounded so familiar to me and hence I applied for the training of this workshop and needless to say, I am an authorized Trainer of "Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway" - workshops in India.

The gist is that, whatever your story may be, whatever your priorities may be, or however your life may look like now.... Do you know?

What works FOR YOU?
What does not work For YOU?
Where are your commitments, confining you?
What new commitments you would like to make?
In order to hold on to your past commitments which are no more serving your highest good, how much are you separating from you and what you would truly like to be?

Commitments can be made to people, places, patterns of behavior, jobs, career options, degrees, gadgets, old definitions of reality, methods of dealing with your emotions..... and a lot more.

It may have worked at one given point of time, it may not work now. There is no right or wrong career option, right or wrong person to be in a relationship with, right or wrong way of dealing with your emotions, right or wrong city to live in, right or wrong pattern of behavior or work to own, right or wrong gadget to use..... What's wrong then? or What's right then?

My point of view, may sound interesting to you or vice versa, Wrong is holding to those things mentioned above which no longer work for you and demand you to compromise on Being YOU..... and Right is choosing that which would allow you to BE YOU.

Let go of the commitments that confine you and choose greater possibilities. I have learned this from Access Consciousness and the different levels I upgraded myself in, the field of personal growth. I am making choices which are lighter for me, and also not in judgment of other peoples choices. We all have a right to choose what's best for us, provided we are aware. if we are not aware, I recommend that Be more Aware of YOUR dreams and desires, your areas of interest, your attributes, your likes and dislikes and as Susan says " ACT AS IF YOU REALLY COUNT"

If what I say, makes sense, Join hands with me to make your world - A happy place to be :)

I choose to contribute - Contribution in the way Susan says means beginning exactly where you are, looking around, seeing what needs to be done and doing it. this could relate to your family, friends, your community, your country or the world at large.



Signing off for the day
thatsbandana@gmail.com

This isn't about being strong, its about being fragile :)

A very good morning to my readers and the people who love to receive my morning messages everyday, I begin writing this post with Gratitude to all of you.

This morning a whole lot of information came intuitively to me and as usual I wished to share it with all, but it wasn't short enough to write in one sms, so here you go.......

Yesterday we were talking me and my mentor Dr. Neeta Kapadia (to know more about her and her fabulous work to mankind visit www.soultemplenet.org and www.isolve.guru) about a woman I adore in my life, who is suffering from Ovarian Cancer. As a healer and lover of her, I came to meet her and facilitate change within her and allow her speedy recovery to show up. She is getting healed faster, God's grace.

So in discussion I realized that the increasing rate of Cancer in woman is alarming and sad too. Am not sharing here the metaphysics of diseases as that is something, we all should learn out of our own interest to ensure good health through a healthy mind and body. Whenever I am in question I receive information and answers from the Universe. Today what I received was that - A woman - metaphorically her heart is like an egg.

How is an egg in its original form?

Can be broken easily, can be used in various forms.An Egg in every form is useful, no matter what, whether you boil it or cook it.(me being a plant products eater, cannot mention the various forms an egg is useful as, though for sure I know it is useful always). It has protein which is one of the vital elements required for human race to survive.

Like an Egg Fragile on the outside and Fluid on the inside is how a woman is and in that form when nurtured and cared for it has the capacity to create new life, and it beautifully solidifies the fluid in her into a new being, gives birth to a new self, an extension of itself. When boiled under pressure it is capable of being cut into halves, splits, fragments. When cooked, it converts into a thing to be served to eat by all, but in its original form it is a very beautiful example of how a creator is.

In order to prove ourselves strong, be independent, or in the - not willing to receive mode, we woman lose the essence of our being, the fragility and the fluidity. Some cases we also turn stone cold. Whatever the reasons may be, external or internal, the loss is ours.

How does one maintain that essence then?

By being willing to nurture ourselves, to be open to receive in whatever way the Universe wishes to gift us love, care, affection, nurturing, nourishing without any terms and conditions. Now does that mean we take it from anyone, NO - We choose. We choose by our inner knowing.... and without self doubt.

Before anything else by recognizing - Say " I recognize that....."
I am fragile, I am fluid, I am flexible, I am useful, I am vulnerable, I love to receive love, I love to be pampered, I love to be taken care of, I enjoy touch, I enjoy being a child, I am romantic, I am soft, I create, I am a creator, I am beautiful, I am one with myself and I am okay to be me, I am powerful, I break my mold to form new life, I nourish and nurture even when used but today I MAKE A CHOICE

A CHOICE TO OKAY TO BE ME.

A Mythological story says, Ahilya a lady turned into a stone by the wrath of curse and when Lord Rama with his purest intention and love in his soul, touched the stone, even after years, the stone turned back into the beautiful woman she used to be and was liberated. I know what it means to be loved by the purest intention and what soulful love is, I am grateful to have people in my life who have loved me unconditionally, my father, my brothers, my husband, my lover, my son, my friends............... BUT this was only and only possible when I worked on the inner being which was converted stone cold and when I allowed myself to be fragile, be fluid, be vulnerable, flow and connect to the essence of me within me. I respect the male in me, I love the masculine side of me to, I am one with it. I have been through and done all the things that most of us do in ignorance, now I choose, by awareness and not by ignorance.


I am not writing this blog for men and parents to understand and save the girl child, not kill it, or not disrespect it. I am sharing this for us woman to know ourselves and be open to receive and allow ourselves to let go of the need to be anything different than who we are within. Not by external pressure, not by force and not by the need to prove that we exist and we matter are we supposed to give in, and give up the essence of our feminine self. If circumstances force you, choose to change them, you have the power to create what you wish for in your life and YOU ARE THE MOST AWESOME CREATOR OF THIS WORLD.

Hey you BEAUTIFUL WOMAN!!!!! BE PROUD TO BE YOU, FRAGILE OUTSIDE AND FLUID WITHIN. NURTURE YOURSELF, BE USEFUL NOT USED, DO NOT WAIT TO BE SHAPED UP THROUGH SOMEONE OR FOR SOMEONE, DO IT FOR YOURSELF.

I do not know how much sense it makes to you when you read this, however this is something which came to me, and I shared it as I usually do. For the Men, my message is that -
Dude!!!! You too have a feminine side in you, acknowledge that, get in touch with that and adore the woman in and outside you. Trust me, your masculine side would feel proud of you when you love the feminine in you and outside you with soulful love and purest of intention. You would see your mother, your daughter, your wife, your lover, your sister, your female friends respecting you for who you are and in turn you will get to see what the women in your life are capable of creating by being in allowance.

I read this short prayer this morning which is applicable for all, men and women.

"Oh Great Spirit, Remove from Me the Things that Block My Usefulness to You. Remove from My Day All Thinking that is Out of Harmony with Your Ways. Grant Me Your Peace and Allow Me to Function as a Hollow Bone."

~ Frank Fools Crow, Ceremonial Chief - Western Teton Sioux.

I would say " My creator, Remove from me all thinking that is out of harmony with the role I have chosen to play and allow me to be me."

signing out for the day
thatsbandana@gmail.com

On a writing spree :)

hello friends, and a big hello to the writer within me.... long time no see, i keep writing my morning messages and share it with so many people but long time I haven't penned down anything on my blog. Today I am starting again hoping to continue it on a regular basis, not for anyone else for myself because I love to share my views in words.

Facebook, I joined long back and earlier it used to be like a personal profile where I would share my family pics and the friends I would add would be the people I knew well. The comments and compliments would all be sincere and sometimes heart warming and sometimes give a sense of lack if someone told me something I would wish to hear about what I have written or shared. For example near and dear one saying that do not make it a public affair your family things and they were right in doing so, the person I was then wouldn't understand as I loved to express and for me this whole world was like my own big family. I used to find it difficult to categorize between who are well wishers and who are faking it. All through life have been advised and protected as to not be so open as people are not the way I think they are.

As i grew in terms of maturity and came to know that one can choose whom to share with and not share with people who are just curious to know your stories and either laugh behind your back or talk about how dumb I am. I started living aloof, all by myself a few friends, a few things to share and most of the things to manage myself within me. It worked well and I learned to stay silent and look deeper within me. With family members still I would be that woman who would share everything irrespective of whether they like to hear or do not.

I grew further, into the journey of healing, knowing the self better, knowing how we create dis- eases in our space and how to work on them. Started meeting many different kinds of people, so many workshops, sessions, trainers, participants, books, learning from life and people around and then learned how to share, what to share and when to share, with whom to share and who would not be interested to listen to me or my words.

Now the sharing was restricted yet it was open, depending on the other person's willingness to be or not to be with me. One very important thing I learned in this process about myself was that I am a person who loves to be open in conversations and am fearless to share anything with anyone and which makes it difficult for the people unlike me to digest the way I be. The question then was, do I continue being me or stop?

I took up the latter for a while and then came back to being me. I realized that when I am me, I am free. There is no other freedom in this world which one seeks, not the freedom to work or be at home, not the freedom to cook or not cook, not the freedom to entertain relatives or not do that, not the freedom to share views with all or with few people, not the freedom to write or not write, not the freedom to have many friends or none at all, not the freedom of being right or being wrong..... the only and most liberating factor of being free is Being me.

Now a days I am me all the time, sometimes it makes people feel good and sometimes not. Sometimes people think I am successful, sometimes not. Sometimes people agree to me, sometimes not. Sometimes I am right and sometimes wrong. Sometimes I am able to heal my clients and make them find relief and sometimes not. Sometimes my workshop is a huge success in terms of financial gains, sometimes not. My family members are happy with me sometimes and sometimes not. I am happy and sometimes I am not.

In all these moments I do not strive to make things right or better, I only remind myself that I got to be me, and I am free when I am me. If there was no need of a person like me in this existence I would not have been placed here in the first place. AND THE BEST PART IS THAT WHEN I GIVE MYSELF THE FREEDOM TO BE ME, i ALLOW OTHERS TO DO THE SAME :)

Does that mean we never improve, or not strive to make things better?? NO
Yes we do improve, make things better within us, but not out of compulsion or because other people want me to change. Change is inevitable, but when change happens naturally from within, and not with a seed of not being enough, then the change is permanent and we do not go back to place where we started from. we only move forward with time and in that journey people join, people leave on their own and you hold to no one except your own faith in YOU and Your uniqueness. A strong knowing is always motivating you from within and no external forces or circumstances can stop you from moving forward. There is no pride, no ego in being the way you are, its about embracing your dark and your light, its about embracing the uncertainty of life and You :)

I love myself and I love the people who love me with no judgments :)

signing off for the day...... see you soon again....