Am i another you? Or are we both Unique?

The reason why I named this blog hour 4 myself is there was a time in my life when I wouldn't have one hour for me. When I say I wouldn't have means I didn't choose to have then.

I was a house wife, in a joint family, 2 small children then, below poverty line background, when I began my life. Family life after marriage. Today too in those terms I am still, what people choose to call an averagely successful person, and from a middle class background. From BPL to middle class, a decent progress through hard work as that was the belief instilled.

Now the fun part in all of this is,I never considered myself in any category, I always thought ( being a bollywood fan) that i am the heroine of my life, and I grew identifying with many and imitating and also wishing to be as beautiful and gorgeoua as they look externally and as strong and brave as they portray internally, the lead characters in Hindi movies :)

Way back then I didn't know there is a difference in a moive and a real life. Stories of Gods and movies, romantic and horror/ spirtual and comedy, all fascinated me.I was always a very literal person who took everything by face value and inside that child like me, was some old and wise soul who recognized the Duality in this world even as a child. I hated hypocrisy and liars.

Now i know, Karmic reasons, karmic backlogs, healing, therapies, how to come out of wherever you are stuck - through cognitive methods like NLP or energy work,mantras, affirmations etc etc... So many things I learned and progressed through in my journey of life.


In conversation with Namita Shetty a friend, a colleague and dear one yesterday when she was stuck at a CCD in Mumbai when it rained outside terribly, till late night, until she reached home at around 1.40am. we did healing, group contribution and a few heart to heart conversations. All of it just so she doesn't feel lonely there.

She told me, she would love to work with me, even before we have had this conversation, and I said sure, but am not reliable, is what people say.

She said i just wish that you be consistent in your approach, you flip very easily. Yet i would love to work with you. I said sure.

Lets give it a shot. My funda of life - We pass great, we fail we learn from so called failures. For me There are no failures.

One interesting thing we spoke off was, what if one outshines the other at work?

One feels insecure and other takes over the entire credit, (a subtle fear which generally people have when they choose partners)
which also happened a lot with me previously, as my mothers belief was "mere hath mei jash nahi likha hai."

Means i do not have recognition and appreciation in my destiny. With this belief she operated and she still does more work than any woman i know in my life and yet that goes unrecognised. I made a choice to outcreate her, which usually every child does and yet every child also feels i wish to be like my mother/ father or i do not wish to be like them.

Alignment/ Agreement or Resistance/ Reaction.... Interesting that this keeps you from becoming who you can truly be and you turn out exactly the way they are. This holds true for every person you judge in a good or a bad way.

Coming back to Namita, she is a short n cute girl and me tall Gorgeous hahaha ( peoples labels), she has learned many things and travelled the world too, which as yet i havent crossed India. She dances beautifully and I sing well, i cannot dance like her at all as yet.

Why comparing?

Well we all are taught to since childhood to learn from each other, see this child, see your siblings/ healthy competition is nice etc... In the name of all this - constant comparison.

Nowadays i do not compare, there was a time when i was sick of all the time comparing and feeling " I am not good enough"

Sounds familiar?????

Girls and guys reading this, I know me telling you, - YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Will not change much in you unless it changes inside you.

Still i keep saying and appreciate all the beautiful and nice things i see in people. This is my uniqueness and that brings out your uniqueness through YOU. I am an expert at making people Recognize the Uniqueness in them. Also do a workshop called - Recognize the uniqueness within.

Regain the missing spark, me and Namita announced this retreat, but it didnt get through then as i was very reluctant to commit to work and life in that time due to some momentary reasons.

Here.... Am sharing all this to bring to her notice and everyone else who thinks that I am better/ or I can outshine others, or that i have the ability to be much more than where i currently am - Principle of NLP says " If you can spot it, You have got it."

This holds true for, when you think i am not in integrity, i am creating a cult, i am super honest so that i mask my lack of integrity too :) Hello there - Same as above.

Does that mean i am not like what people think I am?

NO. I am that, I am not just that, I am more than that sometimes and i am less than that too.

Nothing is permanent in me and outside me too. " Impermanence is the way of life."


When i need to i can be extremely committed and persistent and when i am not in a mood to, i may show you the other side too. They are all there the light and the dark side good and bad, right and wrong in all of us.

What surfaces in one moment may not surface in another.

Okay there are people who are more regular, disciplined, organised and people like me who are kind of not so disciplined, not so organized. However when working in a team, of organized and disciplined environment i am a great adapter.

I love to team up with people unlike me and a bit like me as its complementary.

From today those who read this post, will you change your question from " I dont know what's wrong with me?"

To


I am yet to explore, whats right about me?

I am looking forward to know, Whats Unique about me?

I would love to know in any given sitiation which is not so great... What can I be or differently?

How can I change this?

What does this situation require of me?

I have learned these questions from a modality that i facilitate and practice too called Access Consciousness ™

"Be in a question. A question empowers and an answer disempowers" - Gary Douglas.

What question can you be in which would create more for you?


My usual way of emptying my thoughts into blog post is my joy of sharing. Staying connected to one and all makes me happy :) yet its an individual journey for all of us :)

Good morning readers.
Thatsbandana@gmail.com

Can you help me?

I was pondering on my behaviour which leads to my own destruction and what came up to me is my impulsive behaviour.

Am not a great thinker. "Think before you act"
I heard it non stop ever since am born and the times when I thought were more terrible to me than when I would act spontaneously without much thinking. Most of my achievements have been result of spontaneity. Somewhere that also is a by product of impulse.

Asked question what is impulse and how does it develop, or is it a default?

Saw the dictionary meaning

impulse

ˈɪmpʌls/

noun

1.

a sudden strong and unreflective urge or desire to act.

"I had an almost irresistible impulse to giggle"

synonyms:urge, instinct, drive, compulsion, need, itch; 

whim, caprice, desire,fancy, notion

"she had an impulse to run and hide somewhere"

2.

something that causes something to happen or happen more quickly; an impetus.

"an added impulse to this process of renewal"

synonyms:inspiration, stimulation, stimulus, incitement, motivation, encouragement, fillip, spur, prod, catalyst

"passions provide the main impulse of poetry and music"


I recognized that the same thing that leads to self sabotage in me also adds to my creativity and writing and poetry and more too.

What was the revelation is that we aren't able to let go of a certain trait as we hold on to the benefit it gives and knowingly ignore the ill effects.

That is also the quality of a person who is used to seeing rhe brighter side of things.

So now, wish to ask you all

When you are supposed to see the brighter side of things like qualities in others and in events and appreciate what you have rather than what we do not have.

I practiced that always until a time came when my world was surrounded by people who only found faults in others. I started pointing out too. It was much against my natural way of being and I kept becoming frustrated and sick, until I moved out of that place.

I could no longer see the brighter side of anything then until I healed my traumas and set backs through different healing modalities. Again started seeing the brighter side in all that happened and the people associated to it. Well that served me better.

Now... The question is, are we supposed to or not supposed to see the brighter side in our own self and our so called bad qualities?

If yes then no one is wrong and nothing is wrong in this world, everyone and everything have a brighter side to it and we also do.

And if No then, please guide me why we are not supposed to see the darker side in others and the events too?

Confusing?

I have always been since childhood and hence I couldn't fit in to the normal way of people and life, so many such questions used to be running on my head.

Now am able to share it, then as a kid, I would be quiet and feel scared of the world outside. As it was never as it seemed to be, both the brighter and the darker side were different from inside

Found people who were hateful outside to be loving inside and people who were loving outside to be
Hating people from inside.

I never knew and to a great extent I still do not know well to have these different faces. Whatever is inside is outside and vice versa most of the time. Sometimes when I control I become silent and secluded, that's the only way I am able to observe others and not react or respond.

That's an effect of impulse or impulse is an effect of this default setting in me?

Today wish to get replies form those who read. Can you help me with this please?

Good morning :)

My questuons , your answers and solutions for all :)

Good morning readers, thank you for taking out the tine to read.

This morning when I woke up as usual some information downloads happen through some frequencies of the Universe and i am amazed as always at what comes to me.
Amd through me to you too. Hdigabtt? Weip?


Doctors are gaining more degrees and treatments are increasing with every passing day. Health care industry, wellness industry, healing industry, cosmic products industry, brain mapping stuff and machines around that which clearly states that there is a need for all of it and the health issues have also risen considerably over the years.

Some may debate that earlier there were diseases that were uncured and people died without treatmnet, its a better world now and atleast there are so many ways of curing things.


From my childhood till date have been visiting doctors, hospitals,healers and all sorts of ways to cure myself and my loved ones. And seen all the games that doctors play, also healers play, alao beauticians do, astrologers....and all sorts of professionals do.
Whats right about this is now you have a hundred cures for one disease and sad part is hundred new diseases which do not exist.

Isnt it funny?

To me it is all my creation as i am seeing all of this since i am born. Every where i went doctor or healer, i would ask what led to this issue and how can it be cured and more important how can it be prevented?

"Prevention is better than cure" - have heard and agree too

The biological factors, environmental factors, internal mental/ emotional factors, age factors, family history and a lot more are the reasons for disease.

The industries make products to sell and they also create products for thier own benefit. There are a few rare ones who create products for the service of mankind and those are great, however not all reach to the masses easily. The competition of the Pharma industry, business community does all that is required to subside that.

In the long run those products do reach the masses. Thats when either the creators innovate and join hands with marketing and sales people, or network well.

Now questions to you

How many of you research about any of the products you buy from internet shopping sites?

How many of you browse information about diseases on internet?

How many of you know the authenticity of the source of the information?

How many of you even care for yourself or your loved ones enough to find out whats really working and whats falsely claimed?

How many of you can truly trust anyone or anything wholly and completely, with no element of doubt?

And to those who do

How many times have you been cheated or felt betrayed by some doctor, therapist, healer, wellness studio and their products?

What i see from my experiences is that a lot of what we see is what we notice or hear from people around and form a belief and then our beliefs rule our life and we encounter similar experiences repetitively, not even knowing sometimes where the belief came from.

What was different in early days,less virtual information and more personal connect, more trust and more reliability as people knew each other personally.And also could catch hold of the person who misleaded and confront and resolve.

However, for that too strong support was required from family and friends/ relatives.

Now busy life, less time, no personal connect, yet we are running one person to another, one door to another, one way of dealing to another, one way of living to another, more stress, more competition, less fun, less stability. Mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual has becone a new jargon to use.

What is the root cause?

Why are you choosing suffering?

What is your soul purpose?

Healers questions

Do you have a family history of this disease?

What kind of routine and diet you follow?

XYZ Tests are required to check rhe deficiency/damage and the reason for this through various tests, so first get the tests done and then come.

Doctors ways


The pursuit of best School, career, profesion. Earning more money, name fame success recognition all which are promoting healthy competition


What are most people missing out to remain in or out of competition?

Is competition really healthy?

Are we all healthier than we used to be when things were simpler?

If things are simple now in your life whrn compared to before, what made it simple for you?

Ask yourself, what changed ? What kind of people are you with now?

What kind of books are you reading or sites are you browsing now?

What actions do you take for your betterment and to be healthy?

The actions that you are taking, are they working for you?

Do you sense ease and peace in life and work?

These are my questuons to you today

My grandparents never required medicines till 83 and 85 except ayurvedic/ home herbal remedies and they never got hospitalized , both died peacefuly without any major ailments. Not all the time happy people but surely healthy people.

After them i have not seen anyone even in my family following the same pattern.

I am a great observer of life and curious as a kid is to explore everything and that led me to adventurws of life that i chose.

What lessons my adventures taught me have helped thousands of people to choose wisely.

What then made me choose the roller coaster ride?

Some other day

#Random expressions #Complicated within #Curious to change #sailing between rhe high tide and low tide of life #Unedited versions


Thank you.
Thatsbandana@gmail.com

Good morning to me :)

I am a seeker.... And I found so many things in my journey. Travelling different places, meeting different people, learning different lessons of life, a student of life and a teacher to myself.

Susan Jeffers writes in her book - " Power is not the ability to make other people do what you want them to do, it is the ability to make yourself do what you wish to do."

And then I read in Doreen Virtues post once Affirm

"I am powerful and I am loved.
I am powerful and I am loving
I am powerful and I love it."

There comes a time in life when you lose all your powers, when someone amazing comes by and shows you a dream, which is a far sighted one, like a mirage in the oasis and when you reach there , there is nothing and no one. Illusion/ Maya.

Amidst the beautiful and bitter realities life showed me on my journey, I also sometimes get lost in this illusion, I am human.Also, I love to be human.

In that moment, when I am lost, you ask me who am I? Where am I? Why am I? What am I? How am I?
And my answer to all would be I don't know, in that moment it is actually very real and very unreal too.

Lines of a song in Wake up Sid - "sun rahi hun sudh budh kho ke koi mai kahani, poori kahani hai kya, kisey hai pata...."

And then the true reality shows up one day, and the illusion breaks and so do the myths associated with that illusion. That's like what I saw in a movie yesterday "A dream too good to be true."

WOW!!! I say to myself that it was a beautiful dream. And I wake up and get back to my work and travel and the nomadic life that I live.

"Safar ka hi tha mai safar ka raha"

I belong to these sometimes empty roads,and sometimes with many beautiful people around who sing n dance and walk with you, sit silently, share, listen , care and leave.

Am Glad I am in touch with what you call is my ground reality, am a traveller here with no destination.
My journey is filled with all the facets of life, that keep me human and humble. I recall here a song I hear often when I would be sad or hurt, slip n slide

I love the lyrics of the song, it's of Laura Allan...
"Whenever you feel a little crazy,
or may be too many things on your mind,
clear a little place for your dreams my friend,
leave your troubles behind.....
Slip n slide away u go, into a dream,
now they say that dreams are just for fools, I betcha fools made up those rules.... So never mind what they say, you just slip n slide away.... Coz it's okay...."

Yeah!!! Fool I am, I know it's a dream and I slip into it and never mind what they say 😊 and my daughter Avani when i told her about how it was just a dream says.... "And it's okay" 😊

Blessed and fortunate to have been gifted the beautiful children God gave to me. I did not do anything to deserve them, yet God gave me them, grateful they chose me to be born to.

I tell people, If my sharing is too much for you to take, please choose to move out of my list.
Good part is no worries no one who moves out of my life, is away from me, as we are all together on this earth and supporting each other to live, love, laugh, grow, be and do all that we do. Gratitude you came, you spent some time and left when you wanted to leave.

No coincidence my non stop music playlist which is my beautiful companion now says "jise tu bhool jaaye, khwab wo sachcha nahi...."
The dream that you forget is not a real one 😊 this is for the person who showed me the dream and like a wizard became invisible.

Good night to you and Good morning to me. I just woke up from a dream 😊

Placing my feet on the ground and grounding myself.

Now moment to moment I tread ahead. No desire dream, to seek, to find, to live, to die, to teach or to learn either. Living one moment at a time and this moment I am grateful to all the good and bad that came around. Grace of God. Hare Krishna!!!

Rest in next...

Thatsbandana@gmail.com